(Closed) Ever Feel Guilty About the Cost of Your E-Ring?

posted 4 years ago in Rings
Post # 2
4250 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: February 2009

Be happy and excited!!  If you can afford it right now and he is fine with it, don’t worry!!  I used to feel that way, but now I have kids, and I get nothing for me anymore, lol.  Enjoy it and love it and be happy that he wants this for you.  ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 3
54 posts
Worker bee

When my bf proposed I didn’t ask him what the ring cost and asked him not to tell me because I thought I’d feel guilty. A little while ago I found the papers from the sale and was relieved he got a steep discount and it wasn’t as expensive as I was afraid of.

So yeah, I get what you’re feeling but remember it’s going to be something you wear for a very long time so you might as well have something you and he both really like.

We bought our wedding bands recently and while mine is a dainty plain band that cost only $60, his is a large solid hunk of gold that cost almost as much as the engagement ring. But we don’t feel bad about it for the same reason–he’s going to be wearing that for a long time and he loves it.

Post # 4
3105 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

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Mary Utt :  No way! I don’t feel guilty at all!! And we went over our budget for rings by nearly $2000. But, I don’t care because we can afford it and they are our forever rings that we will enjoy for the rest of our lives and eventually pass down to our children. I’m a very frugal person and I personally believe that out of all the outrageous spending that goes into engagements / weddings, it makes sense to splurge on your rings. Your rings and your photos are the only two things that will truly stand the test of time. Stop feeling guilty, and get excited — you’re engaged!! Congratulations. xoxo

Post # 5
788 posts
Busy bee

My ring wasn’t all that cheap (in my standards), but then again we’re in a social circle where a 20k 2ct min diamond ring is normal so I guess considering who I’m surrounded by I don’t feel guilty. I felt more guilty in the beginning because it was more than I originally planned. I also wanted a moissanite but ended up changing my mind that drove up the cost. But I adore my ring and don’t regret it at all! Hopefully that guilty feeling will pass once you have your ring! It’s so different thinking about it vs actually seeing it on your hand ๐Ÿ˜€

Post # 6
387 posts
Helper bee

 No, because my ring is a moissanite so it didn’t cost a lot. But if it were a diamond that did cost a lot and my husband could afford it would I feel guilty? Nope! Not one bit. It’s your ring. It’s forever. Enjoy it and please don’t feel guilty! 

Post # 7
42 posts

Yes. I’ve only been engaged for 3 weeks (but discovered the cost awhile ago) so I may not have totally worked through it. 

I’ve typed and deleted multiple things because I can’t quite figure out how to articulate my feelings. So in sum, my ring was WAY MORE than I’d imagined and that will take some adjusting. But I appreciate my Fiance getting the best possible ring he could for me and am doing my best to enjoy it.


(Also he can afford it no problem–my answer would probably be different if that weren’t the case)




Post # 8
1239 posts
Bumble bee

The cost of my ring FAR exceeds anything I ever thought I’d own…I feel a little silly thinking about other things we could use the money for, but it’s a wasted emotion so I try not to dwell on it.

Post # 9
10275 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2016

My husband went a little over the budget he originally had in mind but I don’t feel bad. It was still comfortably affordable for us and he wanted it to be perfect (and it is!). Absolutely love my ring and it makes me so happy to look at! Even my husband pulls my hand over to admire it sometimes. It’s worth every penny spent on it!

Post # 10
1757 posts
Buzzing bee

Yes, I mostly feel guilty when I see homeless people or someone counting their change at the store. I’ve lied a few times and said it’s fake because I didn’t want to look braggy.

Post # 11
82 posts
Worker bee

If he is okay with the cost and you guys can still live comfortably, don’t be guilty! You can always make more money; but you can’t replace a sentimental value. ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 12
149 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

I might catch some flack for this, but my husband and I split the cost of my engagement ring. Our engagement was very planned and I knew exactly what I wanted. It worked for us and I don’t regret a single thing, including the price ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 13
1700 posts
Bumble bee

I don’t feel guilty, I feel appreciative! 


Post # 14
27 posts
  • Wedding: October 2017

No, not at all.

Post # 15
394 posts
Helper bee

Mine wasn’t expensive. I chose one that was around £300 as I didn’t want SO to spend much. It’s gorgeous though! 

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