(Closed) Ever feel like the wedding wont happen?

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
172 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Yikes! It sounds like you might have been better off sending out save the dates once you were totally sure that everything was set. The last thing you want to do is totally stress yourself out unnecessarily. Is there are reason that the wedding has to be on that specific date?

Post # 4
845 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I feel your pain.  My dad said he was going to give us the money for the wedding and now he’s stalling because my step-monster threw a fit about the cost.  I really don’t care that much, I’d just as soon elope, but I’m ready to know one way or another.  I know he’ll honor his word, I’m just not sure I want to put up with her for the next 6 months.  Decisions decisions….

Post # 5
1597 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Ouch! It sounds like you have SO much going on, especially with school in the mix.

I see that your wedding is planned for April — how long will your engagement be? I ask because I personally woud never be able to plan a wedding in under a year. The stress, money, to do list, etc. would be WAY too overwhelming.

Is it possible for you to “postpone” the date? Yes, you’ve already sent out Save-The-Date Cards, but if you don’t have the venue booked or a dress yet, it might be much easier on you to get married later that year or at least when school is over/on break.

Also, have you looked to see if any other vendors are free on your date? I don’t want to freak you out even more, but where I live, most vendors book at LEAST 12-16 months in advance. Are you sure you’ll be able to find vendors within your budget that are available in 5 short months?

(hugs). I hope you can work things out!









Post # 6
2359 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I felt like that at different points through our wedding planning.   We didn’t send out save the dates, and 99% of our guests were from out of town.  

Somehow we pulled it off though.   Right in the beginning of our planning, when we were putting deposits down etc… My cat got very sick with Diabetes, and we spent about $4,000 in a matter of 3 months to treat her initially.   I thought we’d have to cancel the wedding on numerous occasions.

Is it an option to change the date or venue?…. set up a wedding website to inform and update people on the date/location etc???

Post # 8
2359 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Sounds like you really jumped the gun on the save the dates.   I think you both really need to sit down and discuss other options, there’s always a way out of stuff.   Maybe you can change it to the same date but a year later??? 

I just don’t think it’s good to start off your marriage like that.   You have many reasons to postpone this wedding.  Dont be in such a rush if it going to really mess things up and stress you out, and especially if you cant afford it.   At least you haven’t really purchased anything yet so you are able to wait if need be.

If i was in your situation, i would at least postpone my wedding another year.

Post # 9
1709 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013 - Walt Disney World

Well, since you haven’t really put down any deposits yet, I would postpone the wedding.  It sounds like you two really need to start from scratch on the wedding planning with all the unexpected events that have happened since your engagement.  Guests will understand if it will be moved back (and you have a website to keep them updated).  FI’s family should understand  that you two are having difficulties right now, as well.

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