Post # 1
I’m engaged and we have the wedding date set. Save the dates were sent out (probably not the best idea sense we don’t have the ceremony venue booked) but it just seems like SO much work. My Maid/Matron of Honor lives 18 hours away and we are broke already (reason for not booking the venue yet) we have a lot figured out but not enough it seems. We get married in April.
Our venue is still available for the time being but we have to come up with the deposit and it looks like we might not be able to for another month! Haven’t gotten the dress yet either, haven’t even tried on dresses yet. Everyone is expecting it to be “wonderful” adn we are doing all we can but we are both still in school, and working barely over minimum wage jobs.
Now I find out our honeymoon (a gift from the in laws) falls right on my last week of classes. Not a good thing, how can I miss my last 3 days of classes??? But the honeymoon has already been booked and paid!
Just so much to do and I don’t know if we will be able to pull it off. Do others feel this way or am I really legit in my concerns??
Post # 3
Yikes! It sounds like you might have been better off sending out save the dates once you were totally sure that everything was set. The last thing you want to do is totally stress yourself out unnecessarily. Is there are reason that the wedding has to be on that specific date?
Post # 4
I feel your pain. My dad said he was going to give us the money for the wedding and now he’s stalling because my step-monster threw a fit about the cost. I really don’t care that much, I’d just as soon elope, but I’m ready to know one way or another. I know he’ll honor his word, I’m just not sure I want to put up with her for the next 6 months. Decisions decisions….
Post # 5
Ouch! It sounds like you have SO much going on, especially with school in the mix.
I see that your wedding is planned for April — how long will your engagement be? I ask because I personally woud never be able to plan a wedding in under a year. The stress, money, to do list, etc. would be WAY too overwhelming.
Is it possible for you to “postpone” the date? Yes, you’ve already sent out Save-The-Date Cards, but if you don’t have the venue booked or a dress yet, it might be much easier on you to get married later that year or at least when school is over/on break.
Also, have you looked to see if any other vendors are free on your date? I don’t want to freak you out even more, but where I live, most vendors book at LEAST 12-16 months in advance. Are you sure you’ll be able to find vendors within your budget that are available in 5 short months?
(hugs). I hope you can work things out!
Post # 6
I felt like that at different points through our wedding planning. We didn’t send out save the dates, and 99% of our guests were from out of town.
Somehow we pulled it off though. Right in the beginning of our planning, when we were putting deposits down etc… My cat got very sick with Diabetes, and we spent about $4,000 in a matter of 3 months to treat her initially. I thought we’d have to cancel the wedding on numerous occasions.
Is it an option to change the date or venue?…. set up a wedding website to inform and update people on the date/location etc???
Post # 7
@Miss Country Chick:
We do have a wedding site where we keep people up to date and postponing the wedding might be an option but Fiance said he didn’t care about the details, other than the date. It was the date he chose, it’s when his family from the other side of the country will be here and it’s important for him to have them there he says.So postponing is an option but I don’t necessarily want to go that route unless we have to.
We got engaged this past April so we have had plenty of time but life kind of gets in the way at times. I ended up having a seizure just a week after the engagement, and someone who has never had one before, it really messed me up. And got us so far in debt with medical bills and doctors visits. Then I finally get back on track with wedding planning and my Grandmother turned severely ill. My mom and I went three times in two weeks six hours south of us to see her while she was in the hospital and attend her funeral. Which put us further down in the hole financially.
For the dress my mom is paying for it but she’s had her own set of problems and has cancelled the dress shopping 6 times so far. Once because of my Grandmother (the day after she passed away was the appointment and neither of us were feeling very festive)
Then Fiance had to pay a lot for his school, unexpected money. So with medical bills, my Grandmothers passing and school, it’s just so overwhelming. Throw in two full time jobs, only one car (lost my license due to the seizure and can’t get it back for at least 3 years) a four year old both of us in school full time, medical problems and a relative passing away, it’s just been a lot!
And I just realized today about the honeymoon. It’s a cruise they already paid for and if we postpone I don’t know if they can change the dates of the cruise or what but it’s my last week of classes for the spring term
So much going on and so much to do!
Yikes! I hope you can find a good solution. I can imagine it would be hard having someone else put off your wedding plans
Post # 8
Sounds like you really jumped the gun on the save the dates. I think you both really need to sit down and discuss other options, there’s always a way out of stuff. Maybe you can change it to the same date but a year later???
I just don’t think it’s good to start off your marriage like that. You have many reasons to postpone this wedding. Dont be in such a rush if it going to really mess things up and stress you out, and especially if you cant afford it. At least you haven’t really purchased anything yet so you are able to wait if need be.
If i was in your situation, i would at least postpone my wedding another year.
Post # 9
- Wedding: May 2013 - Walt Disney World
Well, since you haven’t really put down any deposits yet, I would postpone the wedding. It sounds like you two really need to start from scratch on the wedding planning with all the unexpected events that have happened since your engagement. Guests will understand if it will be moved back (and you have a website to keep them updated). FI’s family should understand that you two are having difficulties right now, as well.