Post # 1
I’m a firm believer in the saying, “Be kind to all you meet, for everyone is fighting a harder battle.”
But I also find this works against me when I am having a hard time – I feel like I can’t talk to anyone about it because it will be burdening them.
My grandmother passed away yesterday, I am having big clashes with my future stepdaughter (who is only 7 years younger than me), I do not like where I live, and I just feel generally horrible – physically, emotionally, you name it.
But… Everyone is fighting a harder battle… So even when I asked my boss for time off for the funeral, I found myself making light of it and smiling and laughing.
Can anyone relate? 🙁
Post # 3
I‘m so sorry to hear about your grandma :((
Your feelings on the subject are the same as mine, I grew up with that mentality from my mother always saying that there are people out there “worse off than us” so it always felt selfish and wrong to complain. I learned to count my blessings but at times I just wonder if it’s all even natural (healthy?) to feel this way because regardless of what happens there will still always be that one person in the world (at least) that is worst off so are we just never allowed to feel the way we do?
It’s tough ((hugs))
Post # 4
I am so, so sorry about your Grandmother *HUGS*
I get like this sometimes because I’m an optimist. People always assume that you’re always happy! So when you need to talk to someone or are having troubles people either dont listen or dismiss it as not important. It’s hard. You just have to remember that you have every right to be sad and have people listen to you. I always think that, yeah there might be people worse off than me but this is really affecting/ upsetting me right now and I have every right to feel this way.
I’m sorry that you’re going through a bad time and I hope that everything else sorts itself out in the end. *hugs* hang in there.
Post # 5
I’m sorry about your grandmother 🙁
I can sort of relate. I process things differently then some people so it’s difficult for me to relate. I’ve been told i’m insensitive, but I just have a different view. Because of this, it’s hard for me to open up to real people when something emotional is bothering me. That’s probably why I like the boards so much, it’s easier to put something out in internet land.
Post # 6
@maureen9004: Agreed about boards. I don’t feel bad about complaining or venting on here b/c people can choose to read it and choose to respond… whereas in real life, if I complain or vent I feel like I have cornered the person and am forcing them to listen and respond.
Post # 7
And thanks to @tiny tuna and @Misfit for responding. It’s nice to know I’m not the only sadness-bottler around here. 🙁
Post # 8
@CharlotteMJ: Feel free to talk if you feel you need to, we’ll be here to listen and support as much as you feel comfortable. 🙂
Just wanted you to know that.
Post # 9
So sorry about your grandmother. I know how you feel, which is why i go to the bee a lot of the times for an issue. I always feel like I’m burdening people, especially Fiance. I haven’t found a cure for that issue, so if anyone has lemme know!
Post # 10
I am sorry about your grandma – ((((HUGS))))
That is what the Hive is hear for, when you think you can’t go anywhere else there is always the Bee. We are here to lean on when you need it. We have all been there. Should you ever need an ear to bend, you are welcome to PM me. Sometimes we just need someone to vent to.