Post # 1
My shower is in a month, and no evites have been sent out – my Maid/Matron of Honor has a 2 year old, and isn’t really helpful at all. My other two BM’s seem to have left it up to my Maid/Matron of Honor. See the dilemma?
I swear to god, i’m at the point now where i want to draft up the evite and just tell her to hit send.
I’m having a pity party over here, and just wish they’de step up… i have enough on my plate. Thankfully my future SIL’s have been awesome…kinda wish i had of made them BM’s.
Post # 3
I am having bridal party woes myself. I never wanted a Maid/Matron of Honor, I had a utopian ideal that my bridal party would then just work together and get it done without the burden (and drama) of having a Maid/Matron of Honor…well. They just ended up doing nothing…then I had a Bridesmaid or Best Man get pregnant and her due date is a few days after our wedding date and she has tons of other stress and responsibilites so I asked her to back down so that she could not overwhelm herself. Being a nursing student I am worried for her health, and she stepped down grasciously.
i asked a close friend to step in and she waited for the other girls to start getting involved and helping and nothing was happening so she stepped up to the plate.
She’s been runnning the show when no one else would so I made her Maid/Matron of Honor, shes earned it! WELL now its drama with one of the girls…ugh. I wish sometimes I would have skipped the whole bridal party thing just so I could take care of stuff myself and just have friends come as guests. All because of one friend.
I guess my point is, I know its late but perhaps you should name your SIL as a bm since she is doing the work, she should be recognized…thats my honest opinion but I’m not much of one to talk since I obviously screwed things up for my bms lol.
Post # 5
it took me a month to get my girls measurments for their slips. we had ordered final sale dresses and they were a little short so im making peek a boo slips. i just needed their waist to their knee. thats it. 2 seconds of measuring. finally i e mailed and texted them over the weekend saying if i dont have them by wednseday you will just have ur butts sticking out and its ur own fault…i have their measurements now lol. oh and im diying everything. alone. and im even planning my own bachelorette party AND bridal shower…as if a wedding wasnt enough on my plate right??
Post # 6
I’m still a good ways out from my wedding but I do worry that I’m going to have issues. My Maid/Matron of Honor has a 2 year old and works all the time and my other bridesmaid is getting ready to move 4 hours away. My Bridesmaid or Best Man is difficult to get up with as it is now and I imagine it’ll be even more difficult as time gets closer to have her here for things. I understand it though, but it is a little frustrating to think that I’ll probably be doing everything myself. And sometimes I get a little emotional when I think about how little my Maid/Matron of Honor is going to be involved because I planned most of her wedding, her bridal shower and her baby shower. But, like I said, I understand that my BM’s don’t have lots of free time, but it would be nice to know I didn’t have to go it alone.
Ironically, one of the girls that dropped out of my bridal party due to some drama is being very helpful and I’m considering asking her to come back.
Post # 7
Oh man….glad i’m not the only one LOL!
I’m making it SUPER easy on my bridal party, i’ve asked nothing of them except for going to pick out dresses..thankfully that task was fairly easy. After some prompting my Maid/Matron of Honor stepped up and got the evites out – though she copied it word-for-word from a friends of mines shower evite, that i showed to her, so she’d have an idea of what information to include, as she’s never done it before. BUT she included the part about “cocktails” (my FI’s family is super religious, and alcohol is a big no no). Ack…i let it slide, small thing on a big ship.
Now, for my stagette, i’m getting married late summer, and peoples summer-calendars tend to fill up quick – i don’t want anything fancy, just a good piss-up with some girls, so i might bring up that subject tomorrow with my BM’s – i’m confident they can plan that….
/end ANOTHER rant.
Post # 8
And yet again, why i have a useless Maid/Matron of Honor – today is my 1st dress fitting. I’ve told her about it all lastweek, reminded her about it this week, and I still have no clue if she’s coming.
I’m beyond frustrated right now 🙁