(Closed) Ever feel like you have a helpless bridal party?

posted 7 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I am having bridal party woes myself. I never wanted a Maid/Matron of Honor, I had a utopian ideal that my bridal party would then just work together and get it done without the burden (and drama) of having a Maid/Matron of Honor…well. They just ended up doing nothing…then I had a Bridesmaid or Best Man get pregnant and her due date is a few days after our wedding date and she has tons of other stress and responsibilites so I asked her to back down so that she could not overwhelm herself. Being a nursing student I am worried for her health, and she stepped down grasciously.

i asked a close friend to step in and she waited for the other girls to start getting involved and helping and nothing was happening so she stepped up to the plate.

She’s been runnning the show when no one else would so I made her Maid/Matron of Honor, shes earned it! WELL now its drama with one of the girls…ugh. I wish sometimes I would have skipped the whole bridal party thing just so I could take care of stuff myself and just have friends come as guests. All because of one friend.

I guess my point is, I know its late but perhaps you should name your SIL as a bm since she is doing the work, she should be recognized…thats my honest opinion but I’m not much of one to talk since I obviously screwed things up for my bms lol.

Post # 4
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011
Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

it took me a month to get my girls measurments for their slips. we had ordered final sale dresses and they were a little short so im making peek a boo slips. i just needed their waist to their knee. thats it. 2 seconds of measuring. finally i e mailed and texted them over the weekend saying if i dont have them by wednseday you will just have ur butts sticking out and its ur own fault…i have their measurements now lol. oh and im diying everything. alone. and im even planning my own bachelorette party AND bridal shower…as if a wedding wasnt enough on my plate right??

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

I’m still a good ways out from my wedding but I do worry that I’m going to have issues. My Maid/Matron of Honor has a 2 year old and works all the time and my other bridesmaid is getting ready to move 4 hours away. My Bridesmaid or Best Man is difficult to get up with as it is now and I imagine it’ll be even more difficult as time gets closer to have her here for things. I understand it though, but it is a little frustrating to think that I’ll probably be doing everything myself. And sometimes I get a little emotional when I think about how little my Maid/Matron of Honor is going to be involved because I planned most of her wedding, her bridal shower and her baby shower. But, like I said, I understand that my BM’s don’t have lots of free time, but it would be nice to know I didn’t have to go it alone.

Ironically, one of the girls that dropped out of my bridal party due to some drama is being very helpful and I’m considering asking her to come back.

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