Post # 1

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Newbee
Anyone ever feel like you wish you could have more bridesmaids? You know, you see people who have 5 or 6 bridesmaids and look to be having the greatest of times with all of them…….
I’m not one of those people and I hate it. I have 3 bridesmaids, one of which is my fiance’s little sister, one who is my sister and then my fiance’s sister-in-law. None of my friends from back home or anything.
Trying to not let it get me down, but it’s hard to not have more people involved with the fun of being a bride to be.
Any thoughts?
Post # 3

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Bee Keeper
More bridesmaids is more drama is more headaches is a shorter lifespan! It’s not for me!
I’d rather have my very favorite people than a bunch of people I only sort of like.
Post # 4

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Bumble Beekeeper
Nope. I already have 1 or 2 who I felt bad that I couldnt ask but I have 6 which is enough!
Post # 5

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Sugar bee
No way! It may look pretty in the pictures but I’d rather less drama and stress.
Post # 6

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Busy bee
Nope. I just had my sister as Maid/Matron of Honor. It had nothing to do with how many friends I had.
Less bridesmaids = less bullshit.
Post # 7

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Sugar Beekeeper
I have 2 BMs… But I wish I had 8! The two I have now (sister and FSIL), my other (much younger) sister, and my five best friends!
But we’re having a small wedding, and those 5 girls are my ONLY non-family guests! Fiance is inviting 30 non-family guests!
I’m totally jealous of how popular he is!
Post # 8

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Bumble bee
Nope!
More bridesmaids = more problems!
I have three,(two sisters and one friend) and i wish i had none!
Post # 9

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Bumble bee
Well, you’re only supposed to have 1 Bridesmaid or Best Man per every 35-50 guests (this does not have to be followed, of course), so having three, I’m already over the limit!
I wish I had more friends in the States. Most of my family and best friends are on the other side of the world, and won’t even be able to attend. 🙁
Post # 10

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Busy bee
I can think of 4 people who I would have as bridesmaids, only 2 of which I am very close with. That is good enough for me.
Post # 11

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Sugar bee
If I had friends I was SUPER close to then I would have more bridesmaids, but I lost 2 of my “best friends” 2 years ago and another I have drifted with over time so I will only have two BMs and I’m perfectly happy with that. I definitely used to picture at LEAST 5 BMs but I also used to picture a huge 50k wedding that is definitely NOT happening lol
Post # 12

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Helper bee
Oh my gosh, I literally felt the same way! I had 6 but only one was a friend, the others were family members and my husband’s sister in law. I would advice you to get family involved. Even if they are married. I used 2 cousins, 2 sisters, a sister in law and one friend. It made it fun to have them there. But really, what really made a difference was the ones that were closest to me. My mom did all the work and my one friend helped. None of the family members chipped in on stuff but they were there and that’s what matters. I wanted that look for my pictures and I pulled it off! Good luck!
Post # 13

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Helper bee
I only wanted 2 or 3 girls. less to coordinate. but, i had trouble getting down to that. I’m having 6. so much to coordinate. hopefully it pays off on the day.
Post # 14

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Busy bee
I’ve got 5 bridesmaids, but they’re really my only close girlfriends. I wish I had more friends so I could have an awesome bachelorette. I’m kind of embarassed by the guest list I came up with. But I do have a lot more male friends, so I don’t feel so bad. I just can’t include them in all the girly crap.
Post # 15

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Buzzing bee
I do!! I don’t have a very big social circle, so two of my four bridesmaids are friends. 50% sounds like a good percentage until you realise that I only have one other friend that I would consider having as a bridesmaid. Plus I’m having issues with one of my friend bridesmaids, so I almost kinda wish I had a backup, because I’m not even sure this bridesmaid is even coming to the wedding!
Post # 16

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Bumble bee
@Peather2013: I have thought the same thing. Fer sure.