(Closed) Ever feel like your SO is immune to Mr. Bee’s plan???

posted 7 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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797 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

Wow, six months and nothing?  I guess I haven’t really been trying Mr. Bee’s plan but I have started working out and taking good care of myself, like I treat myself to mani&pedi’s, doing more girly things I guess. The only positive note I’ve seen so far is one dude my bf works with told me that my bf has been talking about me more, which I guess is a good sign?

 

I’m starting to wonder if Mr. Bees plan could backfire and make your bf think that you don’t want to get married anymore, or that you’re losing interest in him.  I hope you figure it out though!

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2006

I think it might not work if you’re already independent and you try to be more independent.  It also seems as if it’s geared towards relationships where the man is stalling due to feeling like there’s either too much pressure or that he has his gf in the bag, so to speak (like he’s unconsciously taking the relationship for granted).  If you’re already independent, not putting pressure on your man, and he’s not taking it for granted, then he’s probably just not ready and no amount of Mr. Bee’s Planning will make him ready.

Post # 5
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870 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

My trouble has always been that I already did most of that stuff already. I have a demanding job that sometimes requires 10-12 hour days, I’ve had to travel for work a fair amount, I exercise regularly, I have girls nights out at least once a month and work happy hours about the same. I’ve had weekends away without him, I’ve committed to a family vacation (my family) that he isn’t able to make it to. 

So there’s not much else to do. I guess I could get an extreme haircut and spend even MORE time away from home, but at that point it would be artificial for me. I thought the point of the plan was that you just get out and live your life and let him figure things out. I’ve already been doing that…he’s just taking his sweet time. 

Post # 7
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413 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@Wonderwoman217:

Yes!! It ‘worked’ for about… a week, lol. After that he became immune *shakes fist*. Eventually end up missing HIM and spend more time with HIM, rather than doing things for myself and with friends, lol

Gwen

Post # 8
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3303 posts
Sugar bee

I hope it works soon girls =( *hugs*

Post # 9
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15 posts
Newbee

I think he has noticed a few things. I have been out with my friends, not always waiting at home for him, been away on weekends by myself to see friends out of state. He notices, and there have been positive (to me) reactions. It feels good to do these things for myself anyway, but I hope it makes him wonder. He is too comfortable and I need to keep him on his toes. Just because he ‘got’ me, doesn’t mean he can keep me! He still has to work at it.

Post # 10
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2892 posts
Sugar bee

Yeah. Like LaurenK0105 said, if you’re already independent it’s really kinda useless. My bf and I work opposite schedules, we see each other maybe twice a week and we live in the same house. He also works weekends and all holidays. So, I’m used to occupying my time by myself. I’ve always been super independent. We actually had a talk about the fact that he takes me for granted because I’m not demanding or needy like his past exes. (We are working on fixing this). So, yeah. The plan works for a specific demographic. Which is unfortunate. Thought for a moment someone discovered the holy grail. 🙂 Now we just need a Mr. Bee’s plan for the super independent.

Post # 11
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Have any of you just discussed the idea of marriage with your guys? I told mine out right that I wanted to be married eventually. And I knew I wanted know one but him forever. I have never read mr.bees plan. But I know that I already lived my life to the fullest. I got pregnant right before college. And I never let my pregnancy stop me. I worked out, I attened college, and spent time with friends. 2 weeks before christmas he proposed. Walahh lol.

Post # 12
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296 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

The economy is immune to Mr. Bee’s plan, even if my Boyfriend isn’t.  ARGH.

Post # 14
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600 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2006

@Mrs.duck: Have we discussed marriage?! Hahah yes, all. the. time.  It’s like pinning a tail on a donkey that just got burned with a hot poker and is running away as fast as possible!  Just kidding, it’s not that bad.  My guy just wasn’t ready for the first 5.75 years of our relationship and is just now open to the idea of marriage.  So yes, it’s not because we haven’t discussed marriage that we’re not engaged yet.  If only it were that simple, I would have been married for 3 years now!

Post # 15
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642 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I was really starting to think that. I was focusing on me, doing my own stuff, not even realizing that he had noticed. Then he made a ton of progress with out me knowing. (Preparing his house for me to move in.) I went to his house last night and was shocked, he even made room for my car in the garage! We are still months away from engagement, but closer and I am happy with the progress.

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