- 8 years ago
- Wedding: June 2012
I’m writing this to vent/get my feelings out, becaue it’s exactly how I’ve been feeling lately. Sorry in advance for the length :/
Mine and FH’s wedding is in June of 2012, so we have some time. We got engaged this past April, making the total engagement time just over 2 years. Pretty much everyone who asks when we’re getting married says the same thing.. “Oh wow, why so long?” And quite honestly, I’m getting tired of telling them that we are self-funding the whole thing and would get married sooner if we could, but we just do NOT have the money.
Regardless, I’m excited to be marrying the man of my dreams and I figured 2+ years just gives me extra time to be excited and plan and make it perfect. Except that a lot of people, many of whom I hold near and dear, keep making me feel bad about planning so early. One is one of my bridesmaids, and one is my mom. As for my Bridesmaid or Best Man, she always seems kind of anit-wedding (she’s happily married herself, but got married when she was 19) and I told her that if she didn’t want to be in the wedding, I wouldn’t be upset and I’d understand, but she said she was fine, etc. But then I get excited about looking for wedding dresses or our venue, and she rolls her eyes every.single.time. and makes these snarky comments. The first five times I’m fine, but after that? I’m getting kind of pissed.
As for my mom, I know she’s been busy and she just got remarried two weeks ago. However, she said she would buy my dress ($1000 limit, which is completely fine). I have already found a dress I love that is a bit over that limit, the extra amount which I am willing to pay for myself (we’re talking about $300). I was recounting the dress to her, telling her how beautiful it was and how I want her to see it, and all she wanted to know was the price. She proceeded to say “it’s a lot of money for just one day, check out other stores”.. which ok, yes it is and yes I have already and plan on looking at more. My issue is that she spent about $1000 on her own, second wedding dress. It’s just SO hypocritical.. on top of her saying “it’s so far out, you have time.”
Well, no shit I have time. But I decided to start early. I saw this dress months ago and I still love it and I love it on. And I”m excited about my wedding.. who isn’t about their own?! I’m not asking for the world to be excited with me, but at least some respect? These are only two examples but I had a mini-breakdown over this yesterday.
Has anyone else just felt like they aren’t/weren’t taken seriously? I hate that all this is actually affecting me.