Post # 1
When I first started planning over a year ago I was so gung ho it was ridiculous. I knew what I wanted, I executed. I booked things, I got everything sorted out, started working on the little details, and was over the moon. It’s all I could talk about.
Now, I fear that what I’ve done isn’t even close to enough. That I’m not motivated. Constantly worried about costs. And so tired of people making suggestions when I didn’t ask, telling me what I “need” to be doing”, etc. And just honestly ready to marry the man I love.
I’ve turned into an indecisive, procrastinating bride.
And I only have four months.
Tell me I’m not alone.
Words of encouragement?
Post # 3
4 months? You have a ton of time to tie up loose ends. Get on it. I am about 10 days away from my party and I have quite a bit to do.
Post # 4
@chadeedee: Whoa! You’re so close! What do you have left to do? 4 months seems like a long time, but working nights I don’t have a whole lot of time to accomplish wedding things during the week. Sucks. :/
Post # 5
I hear you. Sometimes I feel like I’ve been so productive..but then later I feel like everything will come off as half-done.
Now that I am just under 2 months out, I feel a little shell shocked as to whether everything will get done (even though I know that if I managed my time I could probably sort it).
Post # 6
@missmouse29: Yes! This is what I mean. When I tell people what I have done they seem to think I’m on track, but I feel so behind. My list of “to do’s” is still pretty long IMO.
I think you’re right too about time management. We don’t manage ours all that well on the weekends. We still want to have a life (and we have huge families who do A LOT during the summer) so we don’t go 100% all out wedding planning on the weekends. I should probably definitely change that over the next few months.
I might be more than shell shocked at our 2 month mark.
Post # 7
we are awful at time managing over the weekends, because even though we know we have wedding things that we need to do either something else comes up (house, work, life wise) or we just want to relax .. and end up not being quite as productive as we should have maybe been.
I think for me & my partner, we just have to buckle down and try and juggle our priorities a bit more to make thngs work. Easier said than done though.
Post # 8
@missmouse29: I totally get it. And we’re right there with you guys.
Also I seem to have become more indecisive on the small details I want to use. Either thinking of other things I would like to do, or not being able to choose something as small as a song for certain events throughout the night. FI’s worse than I am about that kind of stuff, so…
Post # 9
And pretty sure I’m forgetting something.
Post # 10
i micro managed my to do list. instead of putting “get groosman gifts” i put make present x, buy present y wrap present z and so on. i broke down each project into the little projects it would take to do it. i put them all on a cork board in my hall so i walk by it every day and when i finish a project i take down the note card its written on and throw it away. at first the board looked really over welming but after the first few projects it wasnt so scary. i have a few weeks less than you and im almost out of cards but instead of tacklling a huge project i did little projects when i could and eventually the final product is done!
just take things one step at a time and dont stress. as long as you, Fiance and a minister are at the wedding thats all that matters, everything else is trivial!
Post # 11
Did your break from the bee and all wedding related things help a little?
My first advice would be to take a break from everything to come back refreshed, but youve already tried that.
If I were you I’d set a monthly deadline in list form.
- get shoes
- finalize centerpiece design
- make sure Fiance buys tie
- finalize such and such…
If it’s all written out like this it might force you to just get stuff done, cause youll want to check stuff off the list.
Also it will spread all activities out, since you said you don’t want the last 2 months to be hectic.
I know that is kind of obvious advice, but when you just aren’t “feelin” it but you have to get things done, forcing yourself to is the next option.
Maybe go over all your favorite elements of your wedding to kind of get excited about all the details again too…visualize how it all will play out so beautifully..
Post # 12
@cr6zy: That’s good advice (being really specific on to-do list)
Post # 13
@cr6zy: That was really, really good advice. I love the idea of having little items staring me in the face every time I walk down the hall. I need to do that immediately (look another to-do! haha). It needs to be in my face.
@Evie19: The break helped and I did accomplish a few things, but there are still so many more things to get finished. What I need to do is stop surfing the bee and finding more ideas I would like to incorporate. I need to be specific like @cr6zy said and get on the things that I REALLY want incorporated and toss all the other last minute ideas.
Thanks ladies… I just feel so scattered.
Post # 14
@Mrs.tobe: Good luck! Im sure itll all come together beautifully and I bet your motivation will come back at some point.
Post # 15
@Evie19: Thaks lady, I hope it comes back soon. Corkboard to-do list here I come!!!!!!!!
I need my own personal cheerleader in my ear everyday. bahahahaha
Post # 16
@Mrs.tobe: personal cheerleader, you say?
You can do it, if you want
Cut out those logs, pick out that font
Make a corkboard for all your to do’s
Don’t forget your something blue
I promise your dress will be in soon,
And before you know it, you’ll say “I Do”