(Closed) Ever feel…off?

posted 7 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee

Yes, I absolutely know what you mean. It’s happened to us before. In longterm relationships these little periods just happen. I don’t really have any advice… We snapped out of it after a random tickle fight that led to other things. 

Post # 4
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Bumble bee

Yes , I have felt this. Almost like the other person is just there and you’re not really connected and close. Usually this means I need to spend a little more time away from him.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Yeah we have gone thourhg that, eriodically. I find as well it happens when there is alot of stress happening. I don’t have any advice, but I can assure you it’s probably more normal than you think.

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013 - An amazing non-profit retreat

It’s just a part of relationships– you will experience both ups and downs from time to time

Post # 7
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

Yep totally. Usually I realize it when I’m getting snippy about stupid things and it seems like it often happens when we’re not spending a ton of time together. Generally when I realize it I just make an effort to do something nice for him or plan something different for a date and it gets us right back on track. 

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I’ve been “off” for a few weeks. Now tonight we have a House marathon, laptops, and takeout. Yay. Back to being us.

Post # 10
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Bumble bee

@Sweet-Pea: It very well may be that you need more quality time together, but if it’s one of those forced things (like where you are saying “We are having an off time, we WILL spend more time together to fix this!), I would perhaps recommend sweetly kissing him goodbye and going away for a weekend with girlfriends or something. 

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

Stress can definitely cause this. Right now I am finishing grad school, apartment hunting, job hunting AND wedding planning. He works 2 jobs and we really only see each other when we’re A. flopped on the couch before bed, or B. When I kiss him goodbye in the morning before work. I know exactly how you feel, and we’ve definitely been through it before. Usually once something stressful ends, things get better. I’m gonna ride it out.

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

We are kind of going through this too, just feels not quite right. But we have both acknowledged it and we are giving each other time apart and spending quality time together.This too shall pass. 🙂

Post # 13
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I agree that it’s a normal part of relationships, especially when there’s a lot of stress going on! I’ve found it’s something that just needs to take it’s natural course and will sonn be over.

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

We’ve definitely felt like that. It’s just a phase. Things will be back to normal soon. For us, it usually happens when we’re busy and stressed. I agree with othe posters who said to go out with your girlfriends… when you come home you can show him how much you missed him! 🙂

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

I hear ya! We are in a bit of an off stage as well. We’ve instigated a date swapping deal. Each month one of us has to plan a date that isn’t just dinner and the movies. I am also concentrating more on me at the moment as well. I take the time to go to the gym and see my friends and not worry too much about him. It will pass soon though!

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

Totally, it happens.  Right now, Fiance are in the final stages of wedding planning, we’re graduating, and we’re buying a house.  We’re actually really close and cuddly and romantic lately, except for some reason my sex drive is seriously low.  It happens, there are ebbs and flows in relationships.  Sometimes we can snap out of things by planning a fun date night (drinks, dancing, listening to music), and other times it just goes away on its own.  I wouldn’t sweat it.

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