- 8 years ago
I’m relatively new here, although I’ve been lurking around here for quite some time. All of your ladies are so smart and resourceful, I can’t find any other place on the web that can be so supportive. I really look forward to being involved here.
Well I wanted to ask you all if anyone here has ever felt like stepping down from your bridesmaid duties due to reasons that are not financially or time commitment related? Has anyone’s friendship with the bride deteriorate so much that you just didn’t want to do it anymore (and it has nothing with you being an out-of-control bridesmaid)?
I’ve read that some of you in the hive felt like you need to step down b/c of financial reasons and for increased time commitments. My situation is a little different.
The bride and I have been friends for over 5 years. We were really good friends but we’ve drifted apart over the years. Although the bride is a sweet girl, she is just too much drama and is a flake so I distanced myself from her a bit.
Over a year ago, she asked me to be her Bridesmaid or Best Man and I accepted. At this point we still talked and hung out. But since the bride’s engagement, our friendship has REALLY gone down hill.
Keep in mind, the bride doesn’t really have any friends; I’m practically her only friend aside from her sibling. I accepted her Bridesmaid or Best Man invitation and was fully supportive of her wedding.
I drove down an hour in the rain to look at dresses with her on 2 separate occasions. When I became engaged, I invited her to come dress shopping with me, gave her all of the info of when and where, (she asked for the info) she appologized for not being able to make it 2 weeks after the fact in an email.
This is just a typical instance of how things have been with her over the years. I’ve try to get into contact with her to say hello and she’s never really repsonds back to me at all. I’ve pretty much stopped trying to contact her anymore since it leads to nothing. I haven’t even talked or emailed her in about 5 months.
Quite frankly I’m wondering why I should put in so much effort when it’s clear that she doesn’t really care. Her wedding is a destination wedding that’s out of the country so it will cost quite some money to attend. I’m probably going to spend around $1700 for this event.
I know I committed to be a bridesmaid and I’m the kind of person that will really put everything into their duties. Part of me feels like I should just suck it up, carry out my Bridesmaid or Best Man duties and really cut her off after her wedding. Part of me also feels like saying, “Eff it, I don’t want to carry on with this anymore!”
What would you guys do if you were in my situation? Have you ever been in something similar and what did you decide to do?
Thanks for taking the time to read this long post! 🙂