(Closed) Ever get a gift and just go: "Are they mad at me?"

posted 8 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 47
686 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

This whole thread is making me silent-laugh so hard at work. 

Post # 48
2853 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

It certainly wasn’t cheap, just kind of odd for us. My dad’s former boss got us a custom artisan wooden bowl. I’m sure that thing was damn near $500 (given what I know about the wife and her love of overpriced handcrafted items), but it’s not our style. Of course, we’ll bust it out for serving should they ever come to our house, but until that happens it will be hanging out in the back of the cabinet.

Post # 49
6478 posts
Bee Keeper

@capitalbee:  It was not one of my better moments. (insert nervous laughter here — lol) I was so shocked when I finally opened this present I had been hearing about for months, and it was *that*. I really didn’t react at all. Luckily, my husband was sitting next to me, and he saw the color drain from my face. He took the box and closed it back up again. And then, when my mom wasn’t looking, he locked it in the trunk of our car.

If it had been a gift from a friend or distant relative, I think I could have blown it off as them not knowing me or not realizing how frightening this gift would be. But the fact that it came from my MOM … Somehow, that made it more hurtful. It’s kind of a funny (in a bittersweet sort of way) now. But, at the time, I was genuinely hurt.

The worst part of it was that I ended up having to keep the evil thing for years. Because my mom would look for it each time she came to my house. If she hadn’t seen it, she would have been so sad and upset that I didn’t love her gift. And I would never have heard the end of it. 

Needless to say, I have a very “odd” relationship with my mother. :/

Post # 50
1726 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I’m vegetarian and have been for 10 years now. An old boss of mine was super thoughtful and made me my own stuffing with vegetable broth for our Thanksgiving potluck. That same Christmas, he got me a Black Angus gift card. ???

Post # 51
1505 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

DH and I recieved something very similar to THIS for our wedding from his grandmother… We used it as a blue elephant the following Christmas at a work party. Lol!

Post # 52
7225 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

there was a member who posted a cake topper made of pyrex with two fish on it and a heart. It was 500 dollars. Things that don’t seem like they’d be expensive can be very expensive. Plus, maybe she liked it.

Post # 54
101 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

A close friend gave us a crockpot in a beat-up box, obviously it was a re-gift and slightly used.  Plus we already had a crockpot ( and I am sure they had seen it at our house before.)


Who cares, right?  However, I was a Bridesmaid or Best Man in her tropical destination wedding.  It was costly and stressful.  i was her “bitch” for several days and missed fun vacation-like activities because she sent me to Costco (about 50 winding miles away) with a $500 list that I had to jump thru hoops to get reimbursed for!  Also my husband and I got stuck with setting up all the tables and chairs at the reception halls AND cleaning up. No thank yous whatsoever. I was pissed because it was not a vacation, it was an expensive, exhausting, frustrating experience.  Oh, I gave them a nice gift plus presents for all THREE showers.  ( I had no shower and got a used crockpot for a wedding gift,gawd.)

Post # 55
99 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

@FleeSircus:  At my bridal shower I received socks with little grippy things on the bottom and lip gloss from my uncle’s wife (aunt by marriage.)  I thought it was a very random gift for a wedding shower, but the socks have been really comfy! lol

Post # 57
5708 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

@FleeSircus:  DH’s great aunt is a rich snob who flaunts her money every chance she gets and yet gave us an oversized needlework picture of some God-awful flowers, our names, wedding date and where we got married. OMG his whole side of the family was flashing their cameras at that needlework like it was the goddamn Statue of Liberty. Yeah, it was homemade, but really? What am I supposed to do with it? It’s ugly (she used all different pastel yarn and stuff).

At that point, a small $10 dove frame would have been more appreciated.

Post # 59
297 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

@xoxovmarie:  Haha, I got exactly that, comfy socks with grippy things on them and lip gloss, at my bowling league Christmas gift exchange one year. It was a great gift for that, but not for a wedding shower!

Post # 60
1580 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

@FleeSircus: You can take people out of high school but you can never take high school out of some people, I’m afraid. *sigh* 

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@longtimemrs:  OMG that’s terrible! I hate clowns too. 

Post # 61
783 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

any other brides who have not had shower and/or wedding yet now fearful of what they may get when they open a box?! LOL I certainly am!

I’m mostly worried about my ability to control my reaction and to give any genuine thanks and appreciation becuase it’s so easy to tell when it’s fake.

Bracing myself now…


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