(Closed) Ever get tired of everyone else's good news?

posted 5 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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7416 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

It’s frustating when you don’t see progress in your own life and it “seems” like everything is perfect for other people. Been there, done that, got the Tshirt. However, in my old age I’ve learned that many times what you envy in other people are just that, outside appearnces. All that glitters is not gold. People don’t broadcast the negative things in their lives. Of couse they are going to highlight the good happenings. They dont’ tell you about who that seemingly great thing, comes at a high personal cost. So I try to keep my envy in check. Cause ultimately it changes nothing about my situation to stew over someone else’s “good fortune”. It’s not worth it. But of course its easier said than done. Life is a series of hills and valleys. So it’s just your time in the valley for now but it will someday change. Good luck.

Post # 4
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@magazinegirl37:  I TOTALLY understand where you are coming from. The problem I have is seeing the people I once went to school with who slacked off and are now so sucessfull and have this and that..blah blah. It’s irritating!

BUT one thing I have noticed, is that those who are always bragging about how great this SO is, or their kids are or their job is are often hiding some real disappointment. I know a lot of people who rave on FB of how great their husband is, but in private convos she says how their relationship is falling apart. Very irritating!

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@magazinegirl37:  It’s okay, your post is very honest. Yes, I’ve felt that way. Our first year of marriage my husband’s father, cousin and uncle all passed, his father within a couple months of our being married. I got in a very scary car accident (all are okay but still freaky and totalled my car.) Last, my youngest stepson had suicidal thoughts at the end of the year which was a very difficult thing for us all to get through. Now we just learned last night my oldest stepson tried a mild drug and my husband has to spend $1600 to fix the sunroof on his car. Eep! As much as we’ve all pulled together under these circumstances, it all makes me want to hide under the covers and just have a wave of good stuff happen for us, pretty please with a cherry on top!

Maybe you can streamline your news feed, as it were. Tune out from Facebook or whatever social media you use, or adjust your settings so that maybe you don’t hear about every single thing Touched by Good Fortune has to say for a little while. PP is right that there are hills and valleys so hang on for your hill.

Post # 9
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11752 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@magazinegirl37:  time to deactivate facebook, or cut your friends list down to only your nearest and dearest!  I’ve been trimming annoying friends out and it’s amazing (and sad) the difference it makes in my mood and stress levels.  It’s hard to be constantly bombarded by things that annoy us (mine are political rants thank god the election is over! and constant updates about nonesense) and really does take a toll without us realizing it.  Free yourself from facebook and you wiill be able to see all the good and happiness in your life right in front of you!

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I work in marketing and have actually read studies that prove that “heavy” and even “above average” consumers of social media are more likely to be depressed and have other emotional problems. It’s no coincidence!

That said, I agree it’s time to get of it. At the very least, hide people from your news feed that make you feel this way.

Also keep in mind that people put the persona they WANT you to see online. You have no idea what is truly going on in their lives, let alone how happy they truly are. I know there have been times in my life where from the outside looking in, everything was “perfect” and many people were probably thinking about ME what you are describing now. But on the inside and in reality I was very unhappy.

There is some saying about comparison being the worst theif of happiness, and I think it’s very true. Maybe it’s time for you and your boyfriend to make some bigger changes in how you’re going about achieving your goals. Sometimes life doesn’t look the way we thought it would, and when you arent getting results one way, it’s time to embrace that and change it up big even when it’s not immediately attractive to do so.

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

you are absolutely not alone! i feel that sometimes even though I have a lot going for me.. its so hard to need to vent sometimes and the only response you get is “well look at everything you should be thankful for” and I just say… I KNOOOWW  but i cant help feeling like this sometimes!!!

Post # 15
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@polyblonde:  Also keep in mind that people put the persona they WANT you to see online. You have no idea what is truly going on in their lives, let alone how happy they truly are. I know there have been times in my life where from the outside looking in, everything was “perfect” and many people were probably thinking about ME what you are describing now. But on the inside and in reality I was very unhappy.

Exactly! I know a chic if you go by her FB status you would think she has a charmed life. Married, healthy kids, doesn’t want for money, exotic trips. Etc. In RL she is the most miserable see you next Tuesday, you would ever meet. Verbally and physically abuses her spouse, is not emotionally available to her kids, lazy, nacassistist, just one of the fakest people you would ever meet. Don’t let peoples FB posts fool you. A good bit of them are lying bending the truth.

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