(Closed) Ever gotten the last laugh by having an ex dump you only to want you back later?

posted 5 years ago in Emotional
  • poll: Have you ever had an ex dump you only to want you back later on?
    Yes, he regretted dumping me and I didn't take him back. : (214 votes)
    69 %
    Yes, he regretted dumping me. I took him back and it worked out. : (17 votes)
    6 %
    Yes, he regretted dumping me. I took him back and it DIDN'T work out. : (45 votes)
    15 %
    No, I've never had an ex regret dumping me. : (32 votes)
    10 %
  • Post # 3
    832 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: Either Philadelphia City Hall or a small chapel.

    Yeah. The same guy twice. I was already with somebody else the second time. 

    Post # 5
    1896 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    @ClassicStarlight:  I had it happen and loved every moment of it.  I know that sounds bad but it was awesome!  I was dating a guy who was a real a**hole, but he asked to marry me, he even expected me to buy my ring!  One night he called and dumped me over the phone saying that it just wasn’t working out and since his music career (he was a drummer in a garage band) was taking off he needed to be with pretty much anyone but me.  I cried, but moved on and made a wonderful life for myself.  He wrote me a really long letter about a year later wanting to get back together (that music career didn’t take off? so surpirising).  Saying “no” was the most liberating thing ever!

    Post # 6
    2854 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    @MissFormaldehyde:  That’s what happened to me years ago. He was pissed I was with someone else and I told him he didnt get a mourning period.

    Post # 7
    634 posts
    Busy bee

    Got dumped by a boyfriend who didn’t like the way I made him feel, namely, insecure. He didn’t like that I spoke with complicated language, or that I have a lot of practical knowledge. He also felt a lot of pressure and insecurity as we were a mixed race couple. I was crushed at the time, then I got over it. He saw me happy and strong as ever, and proposed we should give trhings another try, and I flat out told him no. IT wasn’t going to work out between us.

    Post # 10
    682 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2015


    I have had this experience. The man is now my husband. Laughing

    He used to be a wishy washy commitmentphobe.

    I laughed at him when he came crawling back after dumping me for the umpteenth time. I also made him sweat for a few weeks and gleefully let him know that I was dating others. It was good for my husband to know that I would move on without him.


    Post # 11
    1896 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    @ClassicStarlight:  In my case the best part was that it taught me just how strong I was.  I will forever be greatful for that lesson.  It allowed me to fall madly in love with my Fiance, but still remain myself.  I’d learned to be happy with myself and that finally allowed me to be fully happy with someone else.

    Post # 13
    4893 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2018

    @TakeTwo:  The same thing happened to me! I dated my now-FH in high school, and he broke up with me (twice) for various reasons. My freshman year of college, he begged me to take him back and I did. We’ve been together ever since.

    Post # 14
    344 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    @TakeTwo:  Me, too!!! We dated almost 2 years, and then I’d had enough of his commitment phobia. He didn’t see the breakup coming AT ALL. Breaking up with him hurt me, A LOT. I cut off contact so I could get over him more easily, started making new friends, and honestly had a pretty full life without him. Two months later, he called me BEGGING to take him back.

    Those two months without me completely changed him.

    In twelve days, he’ll be my husband.
    Those new friends I made will be my bridesmaids.

    Life is awesome. 

    Post # 16
    4464 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: February 2012

    I had a situation once, but it wasn’t a guy I dated for very long. There was one other relationship where I think he probably regretted walking away, but I met my husband shortly thereafter so I’ll never know (and I don’t really care). Basically I was dating a severe mama’s boy who broke up with me because his mom was upset he had another woman in his life. After a few days of us being broken up he came crawling back, begging for forgiveness, telling me I’m “the one,” and asking if we can get back together. I entertained the thought for about a minute and then told him no. He would continue to text me at random times after our break up, I didn’t have his number anymore, I would ask “who is this,” and his responses would be weird – like he purposely wouldn’t say it was him. (I only know it was him because I looked up the number and it jogged my memory.) While I could see how closure can come from an ex realizing they didn’t appreciate what they had, etc., at the same time, I see it as more of a PITA unless you’re still into the guy. It’s way less romantic than it seems and can be really uncomfortable.  

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