Post # 32
Yes, I feel this way. Originally I wanted something very small and simple. We aren’t going crazy now but we will probably have about 120 there, seated dinner, etc. The one thing that makes this seems worth it is that I feel like there are very few times when my family gets together (and they aren’t even that big), and having so many friends and family together that care about us will be a once in a lifetime kind of thing.
Post # 33
- Wedding: October 2011 - Tre Bella, Mesa, AZ
I am totally feeling you with this. We were together for four years before getting engaged and are coming up on six (long engagement). I don’t ever just have “a moment” that weddings are silly; I actually think it every day. I still find it weird when people are like “OMG, you’re getting married! How wonderful!” My Future Sister-In-Law said something like “we’ll really have to get to know you now” after we announced our engagement. O_o Uh…because before I was just the girl who hung out with your family for 4 years? Weddings are a completely societal thing, and have become a giant money-making industry.
And yet I spend hours a day here reading about other people’s weddings and thinking about my own. We are spending over 10K on it, when all’s said and done (honeymoon+rings+wedding).
I agree; it’s completely a right of passage in our culture.
Post # 34
I feel like this all the freaking time. I feel like I’m at war with myself sometimes.It’s all so much! So many details. So much money. So many expectations. And it’s all dumb. It’s all hyped up and shallow and materialistic and silly. I have these conversations in my head:
My dress sleeve isn’t perfect. OMG —- Who the heck cares? Nobody will notice.
The linens don’t match the napkins perfectly. What do I do? — Seriously? Come on!
I can’t find bouts I like anywhere! —- Just don’t use them. Why’s it matter?
Post # 35
I spent thousands of dollars on my big day. I was surrounded by family and friends and had a wonderful party. I can’t wait to get my pro-pics back so I can cherish them for years.
However, do you know what’s strange? My very favorite memory of the entire day was crashing in the honeymoon suite. I was FAMISHED from all the talking we’d done and not being able to eat, so we ordered a pizza and stayed up laughing and joking, just the two of us. Now, I’m not saying I regret having a big, fancy-ish wedding, but isn’t it strange that my favorite part of the most expensive day of my life was eating a $10 hotel pizza with my husband?
It is kind of silly.
Post # 36
haha, thats what made me start this post! when i realized that what will make my wedding perfect is having the alone time with Fiance that I cherish. i love it when we take time to be together and not be on our computers or watch TV, but just be with each other. and i realize i will have that on our honeymoon night and it will as good as any night we spend that quality time together! so why all the kafuffle, lol.