Ever had gut feelings about people despite actions/words?

posted 1 year ago in Beehive
Post # 2
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684 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

No but I have zero radar. Absolutely none. I tend to ask my fiancé for his opinion because he seems to see straight through lots of people.

Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2017

I’ve had a few “drama queen” radar hits with people I just met and all actually turned out to be accurate. Just something in their demeanor I guess. It’s happened three times and all three turned out to be drama queens.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2005 - A Castle

Nothing to that extent, but I’ve had two instances of not liking someone my group of friends liked and I couldn’t figure out why. Like you said, neither did anything wrong or bad; it was just a feeling and they both turned out to be batshit crazy.  

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

Yes, i very much trust my gut feelings. They don’t steer me wrong.

Post # 6
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Worker bee

newgirldee :  did you just meet and talk to them once, like at a bar, or were you on the way of becoming friends?  That would freak me out and make me wonder if I was going to be the next victim. 

I think most everyone has that feeling/ unknown dislike. I have met a few people that I did not like for no real reason. I hate Katy Perry and I obviously have never met the woman. She could be the nicest person ever, but I have an inexplicable hate for her. 

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

Damn that’s pretty intense to find that out! I have very good instincts  that almost scare me. My sister was dating this guy she met online and he was just like the NICEST most proper person I’ve ever met but the moment I met him I was like nope. Something wasn’t right and I kept telling my sister something wasn’t right but she wanted a boyfriend so badly that she ignored me and we even stopped talking behind it. He ghosted on her and said his dad died and was in a other country (lies). Months later while she’s waiting for him to return to the states HIS WIFE found her and contacted her telling her everything was a lie and his dad didn’t die nor was he in another country. They had just had their SECOND child (told my sister he was single with no kids) and that’s why he was back at home with his wife. She told him he actually has 3 different locations where he meets single moms on dating websites and takes them there while she lives her lavish life in their beach home. He was really wealthy and my sister was blinded by this.  His wife was from the Philippines and was basically a mail order bride so she wouldn’t leave because he has way too much money and he supports her. However, she felt bad for the women he was preying on. He also had cameras in his bathrooms and throughout his house that my sister didn’t seem to see a problem with when I told her it was a big red flag! It makes my skin crawl to this day how he was. He also wore contacts to change his identity and had a story behind it which his wife also validated was untrue. 

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

Yes. Overwhelmingly accurate. Your sub conscience brain is able to process larger volumes of information than your conscience brain, and therefore come to conclusions that seem out of nowhere. 

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2016 - Wedgewood Las Vegas

impatient1 :  Exactly!!! You’re gut instict isn’t some supernatural power, but your own mind and body processing so much information that you’re not aware of. I work in safety and engineering, and I always listen when someone comes to me and says ” I have a gut feeling…”. Usually they’re spot on, but couldn’t articulate why.

 

Post # 12
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Bumble bee

Yes.  It was a child psychologist who was later convicted of molesting patients. I met him when sitting in on a child’s private session.  I absolutely instantly knew that there was something very, very bad about him, even before we exchanged a single sentence. No one took me seriously. He was so “nice” and all the parents of his patients loved him. If I had been a cat, the fur on the ridge of my spine would have stuck straight up and my claws would have come out every time I got near him. He’s not the first time I was right about my judgement of someone’s “vibe,” but he makes me the angriest. My exclusive satisfaction is that I told him to his face that I didn’t trust him, that I could tell he was making (a child) uncomfortable and further vulnerablizing them and that I thought he was a bad man. He told me I could come to therapy if I ever needed to “talk about that,” but I don’t think they allow prisoners to give therapy sessions so I guess I missed my window.

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2021

These gut instincts aren’t based off of nothing. They’re the result of your brain processing information that you haven’t necessarily consciously noticed. The way a persons eyes shift when they speak.. the way they position their body.. the little facial ticks they make when certain subjects come up… little things that you don’t really notice. 

Some people are more in tune with these instincts than others, and some are more likely than others to accept and roll with their instincts rather than brush them off. I generally think that when your lizard brain is telling you something, it is probably right and you need to listen. Those parts of our brains were developed long before our sophisticated way of life with manners and etiquette and they were developed to keep us safe from danger. You’ll notice that many animals are able to tell when a storm is coming, or they can sense that a predator is nearby… we are no different, we have just learned to tune out of those instincts.

As for me personally? Yes, I have had a few instances where I had an inexplicable bad feeling about someone and turned out to be right, and I have had many more where I quite happily never found out whether my feeling was right or not. I have not had the experience of having that feeling and it turning out to be wrong, though. That’s enough evidence for me to continue to put trust in my lizard brain.

ETA: I have never had this type of ecperience though that you and some PP have where it turned out to be something extremely messed up like murder or child molestation. Holy Jesus! I’m sorry you guys have come across people like that!!! Mine have mostly been people who turned out to be a bad friend or partner, or just not trustworthy.

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

notmeeither :  Good for you for standing up for that child.That is so cringeworthy and disgusting! 

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