(Closed) Ever have someone steal ideas from you?

posted 9 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
3979 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

Oh… I totally get what you’re saying.

I only share my ideas with my mom & the hive. Everyone else has to wait & see my other plans/details. After the wedding I’ll gladly share information & tips with my friends/family ๐Ÿ™‚

If someone doesn’t steal the idea, they’ll blab about it to someone else & then the wow factor is gone.

Post # 4
7174 posts
Busy Beekeeper

YES!  And, quite frankly, it ticked me off – only because my idea was so random/original and I’d been dreaming it up FOREVER.

But, what to do about it?  Nothing, really.  All you know is that it was your idea first.  AND, it’s teaching me to zip my lips around my single friends related to creative wedding ideas until POST event(s).  

I don’t care if my ideas are used after the fact… but I’m having a long engagement and my close to be engaged friend is telling me what ideas of mine she plans to use (for her wedding that will be before mine!)  aye!

Post # 5
184 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

Boy howdy, this certainly sounds familiar!

My cousin got engaged 5 months before my wedding.  She asked me when my wedding was, and ultimately had hers THE NEXT WEEKEND.  And that was just the beginning.

She had the same colors, the same number of bridesmaids, trashed her dress (only after hearing that I planned to do the same), and even had postcard RSVPs after seeing mine (she mailed her invitations a month after I mailed mine even though our dates are so similar…and I had seal-n-send invitations, she didn’t).  The entire time my mom was furious.  I’m not so proud of the fact that I took full advantage of my mom’s fury and upped the ante for my wedding.  It was beautiful and spectacular and once I caught onto my cousin’s copy-catting, I kept quiet about the details and therefore our weddings were completely different with the exclusion of the colors!

Post # 6
4567 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

This is when you make up totally fake ideas to throw them off! Not tacky or stupid things, just things that don’t fit your theme or something that you considered but didn’t love enough to use. Or present a variety of ideas and not say which one you chose. None of my friends are getting married any time soon and I’ll be the first, but our styles are so different that I don’t see any of them stealing anything I would do for my wedding.

Post # 7
521 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

I totally feel you.

My fi’s cousin is getting married May of 2010 and I’m getting married May of 2011. They had their wedding on hold because her fi lost his job and they didn’t believe they could afford it and I picked my date and than like a month after, she picked a date similar to mine but the year before.

She also decided to do blue and silver as her colors, while mine for awhile was light blue, seagreen, and silver with hints of red. She wanted to go dress shopping with me, but I politely declined. I was so scared she would try to get a dress similar to mine. She actually said “we could split the cost and I could wear it first; than you can wear it your wedding a year later” She isnt even my cousin, but now with her budget cuts, she doesn’t like to talk to me. She keeps thinking my wedding will be better than hers because I have a bigger budget and such.

But, fine with me. I’m tired of trying to screen my wedding talk because Im always scared she’ll end up with something similar to mine

Post # 8
1514 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

I didn’t have this problem, but I will admit to the hive that I used a lot of your ideas.  I hope no one is mad about me borrowing/stealing your beautiful and fabulous ideas.

Post # 9
3098 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

Ooooooh yeah. I’m pretty stingy with the details of my wedding. It’s on a need to know basis at this point.

I don’t really have anyone that would steal them, but I think I just want everyone to be surprised by the details.

Post # 10
6661 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

I think my sister stole my idea about taking off the veil after the ceremony and putting on a feather hairpiece. She’s getting married before me so everyone’s going to think I copied her!

Post # 11
3162 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Um how about this – my own mother tried to steal my wedding ideas for the engagement party. Color scheme, signature cocktail, using my bridal bouquet as inspiration for the party flowers, she’s getting her hair done the same way I was contemplating wearing mine for the wedding, she bought the shoes I wanted. I convinced her not to do colors, flowers, and cocktail, but when it comes to her attire and hair she is just going with my ideas. Nice, right? TRUST NO ONE!

Post # 12
5993 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

@FloridaBeachBride… i was at first thinking the weddings are a year apart, who cares but then you said about the dress “……split the cost and I could wear it first; than you can wear it your wedding a year later”   ummmm – even i will give that a big old hell no!



Post # 13
7975 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

Wow, this makes me so sad for everybody. ๐Ÿ™ You can’t talk about this stuff to so many people who are close to you. ๐Ÿ™

One of my bffs is getting married within months of me and we share all of our planning details. She’s my best resource (yes, WAY better than weddingbee! sorry but it’s true!) for bouncing ideas off of.

I guess it helps that we have totally different taste, but if she liked some of my ideas, like we’re probably doing our guest books really similarly, I would be thrilled, not upset.

For me, it boils down to: there’s no new idea. Whatever I do at my wedding, someone else will have done before me. Heck, most of my ideas are stolen from right here as it is! So if it’s a great idea, why wouldn’t I want her to be able to utilize it as well?

I guess … I’m not one of those girls who is trying to ‘impress’ everyone with her wedding though either (what exactly IS a ‘wow factor’ anyway?) – I just want it to be a day where I can truly celebrate and have fun with my nearest and dearest, and am striving to throw a party they’ll (and I’ll) enjoy, create an atmosphere that will foster laughter and smiling and love.

Post # 14
1523 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I openly shared my love for wedding dresses with a lace or lace detailing on the back. My good friend went ahead stole that idea! It was pretty upsetting at the time, but now I have found a dress I love and I do not share my great ideas with her:) My wedding is before hers so I guess if she does take one of ideas she will look like the copycat.

Post # 15
115 posts
Blushing bee

My ideas are not original.  Somewhere out there someone has done it already.  I do not worry about people stealing ideas.  If they think something I did was that awesome that they want to do it too then by all means.  If I dont share ideas and plans with people its only so that it will be a surprise and make the celeration and party more fun.  Who needs to know that the favors are caramel apples ahead of time?  It would be fun for them to get there and see it. 

Post # 16
5273 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2009

I agree w/ snowflake, although I don’t have any family members of friends that are getting married soon before or after me, I hope that the hive doesn’t mind if I am using some of their ideas ๐Ÿ™‚

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