Post # 1
- Wedding: April 2017 - City, State
So I’ve been dress shopping and tried on a number of wedding dresses that looked really pretty, but I didn’t have any feelings about them other than, “Oh this looks nice.” I don’t expect to cry when I find the right dress or anything, but I did expect to have more of a reaction. I’m thinking maybe I’m anticipating a moment that won’t come and I should just select the dress I think looks the best and that I feel the best in.
Has anyone ever picked a dress that they just liked? Did you have dress regret and go back and get another dress? I don’t want to keep looking in the hopes of having some moment or reaction that may not come, but I also don’t want to pick something that I don’t have any special feelings about. None of the dresses I tried on felt like they were “my” dress, even when they added the veil and everything.
Post # 2
Yeah no. You’re not alone. We’ve been sold this idea that when we put on *the one* we will have this over the top feeling and maybe there will be tears and birds will sing or whatever. That’s just not real life for most women, myself included.
When I tried in dresses I hated the majority. Then when I found my dress I thought “Eh, this one isn’t bad.” and bought it. There was no *knowing* it was the one or special feeling or anything like that. I picked it because it was flattering and had details I liked. Also because my Maid/Matron of Honor said “That one.” and I fully trust her. Now I will say that over the months of waiting for the wedding I have fallen in love with my dress. I had to live with it a while you know? Try it on a few times.
Post # 3
I can totally feel your pain here. When I tried the dresses on I felt like I was having an out of body experience like: is that me? I’m wearing a wedding dress. Shit I’m wearing a wedding dress?!
I didn’t get the ‘this is the one’ feeling, however I loved the dress I picked at the time and my nan started crying and she doesn’t get like that over things. (I’d tried a good 20 on before she got emosh)
I then had to sign a contract for my dress and part with some cold hard cash and the buttrflies kicked in for about 2 weeks. I felt so worried that I’d picked the wrong one.
Then luckily I found a bee who shared the same dress and she showed me her pictures and I can’t tell you how much that has alleviated the anxiety. I’m so excited now about my dress and I think this will happen for you. If you’re really not happy then you could change it, but I think the excitement and the pressure of buying a wedding dress can really mess with your head. I hope this helps X
Post # 4
- Wedding: September 2017 - Poppy Ridge Golf Course
Here’s my dress. When I saw it I liked it more than a lot of other options, feathers caught my eye, when it arrived yesterday I said this dress is gorgeous and had a huge smile. Photos don’t do it justice at all and that was my instinct before purchasing. I can clearly see it complimenting my frame when I get to wear it but I’m still not in love with it. Although I’m not really the sentimental type so its not surprising. My sister however couldn’t stop gushing over it so at least someones in love with it. :p Don’t feel bad, I doubt every single person has that “its the one” moment. Its just a dress! Way too much pressure on this part of the wedding process.
Post # 5
- Wedding: April 2017 - City, State
Thanks for calming my nerves, ladies. I certainly wasn’t expecting to cry but I felt sort of like northernbird :
described, out of my own body. It was weird seeing myself in a wedding dress. I’m also 5’1″ so all the dresses just kind of puddled around my ankles and I almost felt like I was playing dress up.
I’m going to another salon tomorrow, and maybe I’ll have a different experience. I do know which one I would pick out of the ones I’ve seen so far, so there’s that. This is my last week to shop since my wedding is in April and I’m down to the wire for ordering a dress and alterations. So come this weekend, I’ll have something one way or another.
Post # 6
- Wedding: September 2017 - Poppy Ridge Golf Course
I’m 5’2 and curvy. Bridal shop visits sucked furry cat balls. They most certainly do not make wedding dresses with the petite in mind! Ended up purchasing online. I’m sure you’ll eventually find your dress but I wouldn’t count on the experience being significantly better, although I sincerely hope I’m wrong. Bridal shopping is not a magical day full of wonder for everyone. :p
Post # 7
I’m 5’4! Dresses can be altered. It’s not the finished spectacle that you’re trying on.
dont worry, it’ll all work out X
Post # 8
i ended up picking my dress over another one because it was more flattering, not everyone has the “omg!” feeling, don’t worry 🙂
Post # 9
When I first got engaged, I went wedding dress shopping with my best friend. We went to 2 bridal salons and I found my dress at the second one. I cried and everything but didn’t order it because later that week we decided to put the wedding plans on hold to get a house. Fast forward a year later, I went dress shopping again and I tried on maybe 10 dresses and never got that feeling again and was disappointed, but I did ask to try on the 2nd dress I tried on again and kept it as an option. Five dresses after I tried the 2nd one again, I kind of just knew that it was my dress and asked to get back in it. My best friend knew it was the one and was shocked that I didn’t cry at all or show much emotion. I bought it and was really happy with it.
Not everyone gets that special feeling or cries when they find the dress and that is perfectly normal!
Post # 10
For me, it was more about finding the place I wanted to buy the dress from. I went to a large store first and wasn’t very happy with my experience there. Then, I found a woman that sells dresses out of her home. She was really helpful and I could try on the actual dress, not one that was two sizes too big. I knew this is where I wanted to buy my dress from, so I narrowed it down to two. One fit better and one was really really soft. I ended up choosing the one that fit better. There was no magical moment when I knew I had found the dress It was more of a sense of relief that I could be done with dress shopping.
Post # 11
- Wedding: September 2015 - Hotel Ballroom
I have a ‘first dress’ and ‘second dress’. My situation is a little different because I was forced into my first dress by my Mother. It was INSANE! She was super controlling over the whole wedding planning process. She LITERALLY sent me links to three dresses online and said “pick one” even though I was the one paying for my dress. At the time I complied and picked the dress that I liked the best out of the three. Which she promplty kept at her house.
When she ultimately left the wedding planning process (and my life…again…long story) she spitefully kept the dress that I had paid for. I was annoyed to be out the cash (really though, it was $250) I was actually relieved I wasn’t wearing that dress.
My second dress AKA actual wedding dress I found in a store at the mall of all places! I was in a formal attire shop looking for a dress for another wedding I was attending. I spotted this beautiful, a-line, white floorlength evening gown. I tried it on for a laugh. When I saw myself in the mirror my heart stopped. I KNEW that was my wedding dress (and on sale for $112 to boot!). No I didn’t cry…but I DID have a reaction.
PS: I’m glad I missed out on the stress of visiting a bridal salon. I mean, sure it’s sort of a rite of passage to have that experience, but I would have found it to stressful. I like that I found my dress ‘organically’.
Post # 12
yes. while i liked my dress, i wasn’t crying, gushing all over it. i tried on a bunch of dresses. my mom said i looked good in all of them. i got tired of trying on dresses and picked the one my mom thought looked fabulous on me. i liked it a lot, i was fine with it. i wanted something simple and this met all my criteria.
Post # 13
I didn’t have my moment in anything. I liked quite a few dresses, but I was most concerned about shape – and I’m glad. I had other details I wanted – full length lace, lace edge, and I wanted an interesting back. There was a lot to choose from, but I did have to up my budget a tad. When I tried on my dress for the first time, I thought I really like it, it’s the top contender, and I wait a week/2 weeks and see what else is out there. After the two weeks, I went back and bought my dress. Now I’m so excited to wear it in a week!
Post # 14
I also didn’t have that “bridal moment” they tell you you’re supposed to have. I like my dress, but no tears, weaping or goosebumps…then again, that’s just not my personality either. I did have a moment of “dress regret” but ONLY because I thought that was the reaction you are supposed to have. When I realized that it’s okay that I didn’t, it made me take a closer look at my dress and turn my like into love. I’m now so excited to wear it and although I love looking at beautiful gowns, refuse to let myself question my decision.
Post # 15
I didn’t love mine and I have dress regret now. The price was right though…and when i bought it we were considering eloping. We wound up having a huge wedding. $250 though….and it fit my body type.