Post # 46
- Wedding: July 2017 - The Lodge at Little Seneca Creek
I’ve never been a very sentimental person, so I wasn’t expecting to have that moment we see so often in pop culture. I went dress shopping with friends to try on all different styles. We all agreed one particular style looked best on me (and my parents, sister, and Future In-Laws agreed as well). I found a dress with all the qualities we liked on Tradesy for $200. I was sold. No regrets!
Post # 47
MiniMeow : I did not have a “it’s the one” moment for my dress.
I had my dress custom made. I wanted a giant bow and a detachible train, and those are not exactly in fashionat the moment. The dress in my head however, was not particualrly similar to the dress I got. So the first time I put on my dress I was overwhelmingly dissapointed! I felt lumpy and bland.No one wants to be a bland bride!
I spent months debating if I could get another dress, but the budget was too tight so I decided to stick with the dress I had. I also got some very good alterations which made a huge difference. (pic #2
On my actual wedding day – I still thought maybe I chose a terrible gown – but when I put it on and I saw myself with the hair and the makeup and the jewelry – I didn’t look bland at all!! I looked like a movie star! I felt so bridal!! And my husband loved it! Now that the wedding is over I love my dress!! It was totally me, and I was just second guessing myself.
But yeah – I was surprised how emotional the wedding dress process was.
Post # 48
MiniMeow : Yep. I don’t particularly love my dress but I am hoping after some custom alterations. The dresses I initially loved and for “that” feeling from were well over my price range and I just wasn’t getting that “You not get married once so spend whatever” feeling so I didn’t go with those. My dress isn’t horrible and it’s grown on me over the past few months, but I was kinda dissapointed I didn’t have that feeling that the brides on “Say Yes to the Dress” get lol. Don’t worry about it… Everything will be fine! Maybe you could get a reception dress that you love… That’s actually what I opted to do since I was under budget with my wedding gown. At the end of the day your fiancé is going to adore you in whatever dress you walk down the aisle in… So all will truly be well! 😀
Post # 49
I have to say I am glad to see brides share this same situation because a few months after my dress. I thought I was alone.
Post # 50
5’2 and curvy here! When dress shopping it was really hard for me to envision how the finished product would look on me. Like you mentioned, I felt like a little girl trying on mommy’s clothes. I had a “moment” when I found my dress but it wasn’t as magical and dramatic as SYTTD makes it seem. Honestly I was just excited that my sister loved it too. Sometimes I think about if I chose the right dress because I feel like I didn’t have the tears and a love song didn’t immediately begin to play in the background like everyone else says it should be like.
Here’s how it went: I put the dress on and it felt right. I was comfortable. When I finally saw it on me I loved how it looked. I thought, “This dress looks really good on me.” I loved the way it made me feel. I have body image issues but the dress made me feel beautiful and confident. Then I looked at my sister and she was crying and I knew it was the one.
The longer I’ve had it, the more I’ve fallen in love with it. At the time it felt more like finding that perfect outfit for a romantic night out with my fiance. Something that I felt good in, looked good in, and knew my fiance would be proud to show me off in (even though he thinks I look great in a potato sack). It didn’t feel like what I expected it to feel like but it was a moment nonetheless.
Post # 51
- Wedding: April 2017 - City, State
jennmariee : This was the dress I originally liked.
I have since decided that while I really liked the dress, it didn’t make sense to go over budget on the dress when I’ve been pretty good about staying within budget on pretty much everything else. I had a pity party for myself and came to terms with the fact that the search will continue. I’ve given myself until the end of the month to pick something.
I do feel better knowing this is a fairly common thing. It makes me feel like, even if I don’t burst into tears over the dress I eventually pick, it can still be the right dress for me. And even if it’s not “the” dress, it being a really nice, comfortable dress is perfectly fine.
Post # 52
MiniMeow : I thought so too, both times (this is my second wedding). I worried that because I wasn’t overwhelmed with tears and awe at my own beauty, the dress wasn’t ‘the one’.
I later realised it was never going to happen for two reasons:
1) The kind of dress I can afford is never going to be the dress that makes me fall down weeping with joy, and
2) I have such a dislike of my own looks/body image issues that I’m never going to be overwhelmed by how lovely I look in anything ever.
I hate shopping and I’m too poor to try on 80% of the dresses available, so in the end, “I like it” was good enough for me.