(Closed) Ever pick someone to be a bridesmaid who didn't pick you?

posted 8 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
1924 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I don’t think asking people to be bridesmaids needs to be reciprocated.  Particularly if you’re not bothered by it, I wouldn’t worry about it 🙂

Post # 4
308 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Yup- my cousin was in mine.  I was hurt to not be her bridesmaid- but she was still in mine.  I also had my bff from HS in our wedding- we had a falling out in college and were not friends when she got married…. so glad that ended and she was able to be in mine!

Post # 5
872 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I asked a girl I know to be my maid of honor even though she didn’t even invite me to her wedding a few years back. 

I’m fine with that, a few years back we’d only met twice before but over the years we have become closer and we’ve become pretty close since I asked her to be my M.O.H so I am glad with the way things worked out. 

She was so happy when I asked and has been a huge help with wedding planning. It is good to have someone by your side who has gotten married before, she will be very helpful to you.

Post # 7
1626 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

My Maid/Matron of Honor has 3 sisters so I know for a fact I will not be a bridesmaid in her wedding lol.  I think it’s totally fine.

Post # 8
505 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

My best friend since highschool did that too.. She got engaged a couple of months before I did and since she knew I was engaged too, she began to be all “bitchy” about the whole wedding stuff.. She didn’t want to tell me ANYTHING about her wedding, and I was so excited I was telling her everything about mine (cuz I wanted to share that special moment with her) but even tho she didn’t chose me as a bridesmaid, I will choose her… 🙂

Post # 9
7899 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

Yeah. It’s not a do ut des situation. If you want her in your wedding, ask. I’ve been matron of honor for someone I almost didn’t even invite to my first wedding… relationships change and different people have different sized bridal parties and a different number of close friends.

Post # 10
516 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Yep. One of the first people I asked to be a bridesmaid did not ask me to be a bridesmaid. It wasn’t awkward for either one of us. Everyone’s wedding is different and has unique circumstances and choices to make. If you want her to be by your side, most definitely ask her!

Post # 11
2966 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

this hasn’t happened to me, but none of my close friends/cousins have gotten married, so the opportunity hasn’t really presented itself. my best friend (who’s a bridesmaid in my wedding) was engaged for a while and asked me to be a bridesmaid, but they ended up splitting up. and another bridesmaid of mine has always talked about having me be bridesmaid for her. she ended up having a very last minute civil ceremony and i wasn’t even there for it, but she still says she wants me to be a bridesmaid for her “real” wedding, so we shall see.

Post # 12
11231 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

None of my BMs are having me in their WPs. My cousin is already married (and didn’t), my Maid/Matron of Honor and one Bridesmaid or Best Man (both bffs) are engaged and not really planning, my 4th Bridesmaid or Best Man isn’t dating anyone (although if she does get married, she may ask me), and the last is my 15 year old Future Sister-In-Law, who may choose me in several years.

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