(Closed) Ever play pool with a Rope??

posted 9 years ago in Intimacy
Post # 3
620 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Goodness me, boys are wierd arent they! Sorry I cant really help, sorry. But I dont think its really anything to worry about.

Post # 4
1726 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

LOL @ the title of this post! Didn’t get it til you mentioned it in the story. Too funny!

Sounds like the fact that he was worried about it, as he said, was probably why he was having trouble. You know how sometimes women that are *worried* about climaxing, don’t? I don’t think it was that the sexy clothes didn’t “do” it for him — I bet he was just fixating on trying not to disappoint and that wasn’t allowing things to flow the way they normally do. I wouldn’t worry about it — I’m sure he appreciated the surprise when he saw you!

Post # 5
1850 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

I was thinking the same thing as littlemissmango. Maybe he feels pressured once he sees that you’ve put in the extra effort and doesn’t want to disappoint you. By The Way Love the title of this post! Too funnyTongue out

If it’s not that and it really is the clothes that don’t do it for him, maybe let him pick out what he wants you to wear? I know that SO loves to pick out what I wear…heehee

Post # 6
5496 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2010

Your title cracks me up! So funny!

If it only happens once in a while, then it is totally normal. I can see why you think there may be a connection with the sexy outfit. Has he mentioned liking sexy outfits before? I would ask him what outfits turn him on the most and see if he mentions what you wore last night. If not, maybe try wearing something else next time? I mean, another sexy outfit and see how things go. And perhaps in a month or so, wear the same outfit you did last night just to see?

Seriously, though, your post title is just awesome. LOL

Post # 7
3010 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

My reaction to your title was like “whaaaaaat?!”  Totally got my attention and love it. 

I really don’t have advice for you.  Only an experience that has occurred once or twice.  J got excited, but soften up during the act.  I was completely caught off-guard by this and figured it was because of me.  I thought he didn’t find me attractive anymore, didn’t have enjoy our sex life, etc.  He explained to me that he was stressed and had a lot on his mind so it was hard to perform.  So, I’m not sure if that may have anything to do with it or not.  As Miss Sydney said: boys are weird!  Hah.  

I agree with the suggestion of letting him pick out clothes or something to do that really excites him.

Post # 8
971 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2008

Not all men are turned on by sexy clothes/lingere.  And, not all men are into the whole dress up thing (thinking naughty school girl, french maid, etc_. 

I don’t know what your definition of sexy clothes is.  DH appreciates a new lacy bra, and pretty thong, but I don’t think he’d be into the whole naughty school girl thing.  He’s said in the past that the whole bustier with garter belt and thigh highs does nothing for him, so I don’t bother.  DH prefers simplicity (read simple nudity where he doesn’t have to deal with multiple hooks, buttons, etc.). 

And, yeah, I can see how the sexy clothing would put on the added stress to perform!  I wouldn’t worry about it too much. 

Post # 9
502 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Oh I am so with you!!!! I cannot for the life of me figure out why but me wearing lingerie and us not being able to get it on are almost synonymous. Darling Husband has never really given me a good answer as to why. He insists–and I believe–that he finds me very attractive when I wear it but it freaks him out and makes him nervous at the same time. Go figure. I guess there are worse problems to be had out there so I don’t worry about it too much.

Post # 10
2191 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

Yeah, I don’t think it’s anything to worry about. Like PP’s have said, he was probably really trying not to disappoint you. 

Post # 11
7770 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

Actually, all men and their *things* are different.  Sometimes they really can’t control it- if they are tired, or sore, or stressed out.  Just like littlemissmango said- think of how it is if we as women are stressed about climaxing- our parts are even more unpredictable.  No need to worry.  This happens sometimes and is normal.

Post # 12
14181 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

If he isn’t a fan of the sexy clothes/lingerie, don’t wear them! Or try to ease into it. Start with just heels and add to it over time. Maybe he’s just not as into the lingerie as you want him to be. My husband thinks dressing up is kind of funny and pointless and he’d wonder why i was dressing up, what the occassion was, and why i was going through all the trouble–in turn, adding unecessary pressure, right? I don’t think it’s weird that sexy clothes and lingerie aren’t a turn on for your husband…maybe he just prefers you to look like you, all natural and all that.

Post # 13
2825 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I think it’s perfectly normal, it doesn’t happen often so I’m sure it doesn’t mean anything he was probably just worried…

That said, my Fiance is the same way I think… I put cute post its around the house when he got home yesterday and had some cute lingerie on and was laying in bed waiting for him to come home and I think he was more stressed about the surprise than excited.  Apparently he had a stressful day and just wanted to come home and relax (doing the deed isn’t a stress reliever for him)… Needless to say he was easily convinced otherwise, but I just think it’s funny how different some men are with what turns them on…

Post # 15
2870 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

I think its performance anxiety.

Men are interesting creatures. No matter how many times they have had sex sometimes they are just flat out intimidated by a beautiful woman (especially one they love and respect) 

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