Post # 1
Just wondering if I’m the only one!
Has anybody ever felt like the odd friend out, or the friend that people put up with but don’t really like? How do you know your friends like you as much as you like them?
Nothing specific happened to make me ask. Sometimes I just get self conscious and pensive and I wonder what my friends really think of me, and if I’m as important in their lives as they’ve been in mine!
Post # 4
It’s a bit silly isn’t it? I’m sure people wouldn’t hang out with us if they didn’t like us! I think I just over analyze and worry about everything. But how do you know if people genuinely like you and want to be your friend? Some of these girls I’ve been friends with since we were 7, and now we’re 24, so it’s almost like a worry that they feel obligated to continue the friendship.
Post # 5
I feel that all the time! I was genuinely surprised and so pleased when so many came to my wedding. I personally don’t see much to be endearing about me, and cannot believe that people would want to spend time with me. There’s a tiny part in the back of my mind that half believes that Darling Husband will wake one day and just say “Haha! You really believe I’d want to marry you? I only did it to make you look like a fool, and everyone knows and everyone hates you and they will all laugh at you hahaha!!!!!!” I think I may be suffering from a mild form of Paranoia…..
Post # 6
@MrsCreeToBe: I’ve known my best friend since I was 6 and we’re both 23 now but I know if she didn’t want to be friends she would just flat out say it. I do get worried when I don’t hear from my friends for over a month.
Post # 7
@MrsCreeToBe: All the time. Even more so with workmates. I’m trying to fight it but there are few people I feel really like ME rather than tolerating me.
Post # 8
Oh my god, totally! And I can’t tell if it’s just paranoia or not! I’m act a bit tough on the outside but a big mushy marshmallow inside and really sensitive to this stuff. I think I’m too much of a people pleaser at times. Sometimes I honestly think I want to kind of run away so I stop worrying about making people happy or whether they like me as much as I adore my friends. And then it makes me feel like I’m 13 again haha a bit sad. One of my bestest old friends just got engaged and has chosen 3 other girls to be bridesmaids but not me, so I’ve been feeling this one a bit lately.
Post # 9
Yep totally feel like that, I feel like I am the boring one and am along just for the ride somedays…
Post # 11
But seriously, if I don’t get invited to something, sometimes it stings and I feel self-conscious. I know people aren’t throwing parties just to make fun of me or anything, but I feel hurt when stuff like that happens.
Post # 12
I suffer with social anxiety and find it hard to keep friends. I ALWAYS wait for them to suggest doing something with me, and I hardly ever suggest plans to them for fear of them being like, ‘er why would I want to do that?’.
Thats only with new friends though. Not my oldest friends. But I live 300 miles away from them so I hardly ever see them anymore 🙁
Post # 13
I do and it sucks so badly. The biggest part being I live 1.5 hours away from all of them. I try to work around their schedule but it is starting to be a drain on me since the last couple times I came to town plans have been changed. But moving is not an option right now.
Post # 14
I used to with a different group of friends. We actually had a huge falling out. Now, I have a group of friends that I feel completely comfortable with. If you think you really might be on the friend fringes, I would honestly encourage you to keep an open mind and try to find more friends. You don’t have to dump the ones you have, obviously! But maybe there are people out there that you can find who won’t make you feel like that.
Post # 15
Most of the time I feel close to my group of friends, but every now and then I get paranoid about this sort of thing. Usually it’s when I’ve said something that I feel like might have been taken the wrong way and I obsess over if I have offended that person. Then I worry if they are talking to everyone else about it and everyone thinks I’m a jerk. It’s part of my anxiety and I have tried to just make myself say something if I am worried about it but I still do it sometimes. I usually know in the back of my mind that I am being ridiculous though.
Now if you are talking about friends that just don’t call much or make an effort to continue the friendship, yes I have had friends like that and I just back off the friendship too. No big fight or anything, I just call those people less and less and usually lose touch because what’s the point in making an effort when they don’t?
Post # 16
In high school I often felt like the invisible friend – not that none of them liked me but it often felt like I was just there as part of the group, and not someone they actually considered a real friend.
College up until now, I’ve only kept one or two friends around and for me that’s a lot better. I’m a huge introvert and don’t really like keeping up with too many people so having one or two that are close to me and who i know I can trust is more beneficial.
Sometimes at work, I get a little envious because the other two girls are more sociable and text/call each other outside of work/bring eachother food, but then when one of them’s not around, the other will come to me to gossip about them so then i don’t feel too bad. I’d rather not associate with frenemies.