- 5 years ago
Basically I would like to know two things:
1. How do you keep the romance alive in your relationship/marriage? Homemade dinners? Going out? Telling him sweet things?
2. Do you think it’s normal that the romance gets lost to a certain degree after a while of dating? I’m asking because today I found a piece of paper with the lyrics of the song my boyfriend wrote for me, almost three years ago when we just started dating (he played the guitar and sang it for me, it was amazing). I remembered how in the first few months to one year of our relationship he always kept telling me the sweetest things ever. He told me how he thinks I’m the love of his life, how he cannot live without me, how much he misses me when he hasn’t even left the house yet and all that. Today, I know that he loves me and wants to be with me, but it has changed. Not suddenly from a day to other, no, slow and steadily. He still tells me almost every day that he loves me (but just a normal ‘I love you’ when we’re on the phone, or when we leave for work, or sometimes just in bed), he sometimes tells me that I’m beautiful, but that’s it. When we’re not together he rarely tells me that he misses me. When I ask him if he does, he says ‘of course I do’. But he rarely says it first. I also don’t remember the last time he has told me that I’m the love of his life. Sometimes I tell him ‘Tell me something sweet/romantic’ and he usually just responds ‘I love you’ or ‘You’re really beautiful’. Also, I remember how he looked at me when he first fell in love with me. He looked like a little boy who just got the bes Xmas gift ever. I will always remember that look on his face. Now he often doesn’t even look when I’m walking naked through the room, because it has become everyday routine (we live together).
I don’t know.. am I overanalyzing? We’re happy for most of the time and plan a future together, and we spend a lot of time together, travel together, laugh, have great conversations. He still loves to cuddle a lot, that has never changed. I would love to hear all those things from him again like in the beginning of our relationship, but I guess I cannot force that. How is it in your relationship? Did your man’s affection (the sweet lovey-dovey words I mentioned before) slow down or has it maybe even increased?