Post # 1
My SO got a new job and he started training this week. He has to be up at 6:30 am, and my God, he is not quiet about it. I’m tired, and I can’t keep waking up this early.
How do you Bees deal with different schedules? What compromises have you made (getting ready outside the room, ect?)
Post # 3
@MissFemmeFatale: Mr. 99 is an early riser, he has his clothes and everything laid out in the other room so he doesn’t wake me up, because a week of that crap when we first got married I ate his face off after he kept opening and shutting the dresser looking for socks…
Post # 4
@Nona99: I brought this solution up to him and let’s just say he did not react kindly. Was your husband resistant to the idea?
Post # 5
Let me know when you figure it out. My FI’s alarm goes off at 6:15 and then 5 minute intervals until he gets up (or shoved out of bed by me). He then sits in the bed and yawns and scatches and stretches for about 10 miuntes.
This is followed by opening and slamming every drawer and door in our bedroom. Then standing around scratching and yawning some more. Then somehow he manages to put on his work clothes on with as much noise as if it were a suit of armor.
Finally, at 7:15 he decides it’s time to leave for work so he walks over to me, kisses me goodbye (or as I call it, “awake”) and then leaves…
…just in time for my alarm to go off at 7:20. ARGH
It’s been 2 years and I still hate him every morning.
Post # 6
- Wedding: September 2013 - Franklin Plaza
My Fiance has to get up early for work sometimes. When he does he just get’s ready in the other room. No real issues. I do the same when I get up before him.
Post # 7
i’ve given up on him not waking me up. it’s inevitable. our bathroom is attached to our room in this apartment, so the sound of the shower wakes me up, if the movement from him getting out of bed doesn’t. i just go back to sleep after he’s gone. it’s easier than arguing.
at my parents’ house (where we’ll be moving back to), we don’t have the same issues because the bathroom is across the hall. i still wake up a bit when he gets out of bed, but not as much as i do here.
i’m sorry he’s not reacting well to your suggestions! i hope you figure out a solution. did you explain that you’re not sleeping because of all of his noise? i would ask him if would he rather have a cranky tired wife all the time, or live with getting dressed in another room..
Post # 8
I’m the one up early (I wake at 4:30am and start work at 6:30am, leaving about 5:45am each day)
I shower in the other bathroom and I use the flashlight app on my phone to find my clothing. I’m typically quiet with the drawers as I know where my stuff is.
He works until midnight so when he gets home he’s quiet downstairs. Its a trade off, if he expects me to not be an elephant in the morning, then he’s not an elephant at night.
But i’m also very tolerant to the fact that every night when he goes to bed at 2, or 3, or 4, I will wake up, but I just go back to sleep.
Post # 9
- Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall
I bite my husbands head off when he presses snooze a billion times, worst thing EVER!!!!!! Set it for when you’re ACTUALLY going to wake up!
I’m lucky, even tho Darling Husband gets up earlier than I do he quietly exits and goes down stairs to work out. We get ready at the same time after that so we don’t bother each other.
Post # 10
Can you sleep in another bedroom? Not ideal, but makes your point.
If not, I would either get up earlier than him or when you are going to bed, make a huge ruckus.
Post # 11
Darling Husband generally has to get up earlier than I do to be ready to leave for work. What did we do? Honestly — and don’t knock it til you try it — I just get up when he does, even though I don’t have to.
It solves everything because it means you can both go to bed at the same time and get the same amount of sleep. We watch TV in bed and then turn the TV off and roll over to go to sleep before 9PM. So getting up at 5 isn’t a problem. Then I have all this time in the morning to do stuff I usually would have to do when I got home from work — things like cleaning house, prep work for dinner, laundry, etc. I could even work out in the mornings if I wanted to, though I greatly prefer doing that AFTER work. But the result of this is that Darling Husband and I are totally on the same schedule, and the house is always in good working order so we don’t need to do chores in the evening. It’s awesome.
How much earlier than you does your SO get up? Would it be possible for you to adjust your schedule a little so you’re not both getting mad at each other (him getting irritated at you for being noisy at night when he’s trying to get to bed early, and you being irritated at him for making noise in the morning)?
Post # 12
I get up at 6:30, Darling Husband gets up at 11am. I have my clothes laid out already so that I don’t have to dig around in drawers/the closet and leave the room to go get ready in our other bathroom.
Post # 13
@MissFemmeFatale: Honestly, I have gotten used to it and sleep right through it now. It has taken a while (maybe a few months), but he wakes up 5:40am and I barely notice. I wake up at 7:30am.
Post # 14
He tried his best to be quiet, and I can sleep through most of his normal routine. When he does something different is when I wake up. We also keep a flashlight on the dresser so if he cant find something right away, he can use that.
Its completely normal for the early rising partner to get dressed in another room, I dont get why he would get so frustrated with that suggestion.
Post # 15
@MissFemmeFatale: I can’t believe your husband is against the obvious, kind solution. I think there’s a whole other set of issues there if he can’t even be conscious of how his actions effect you an minimize the fall out of his having to get up earlier.
Post # 16
@iarebridezilla: You are a good woman. But I value my sleep way too much. I am not a morning person and would rather sleep in for the extra 2 hours.