Post # 1
I just need to get this out, even if no bees read it….
My grandfather passed away today. 92 years old and he died because he stopped eating and drinking and he had a living will saying he didn’t want a feeding tube.
My heart feels like it is just broken into a million pieces right now. This man has always been so strong and so full of life my entire life… and now he is just gone. People say they marry someone just like thier father, but I feel like I married someone just like my grandpa.
If you could have based The Notebook off of someone in real life it would have been my grandfather. He loved my grandmother so much and taught me what true love really looked like. He would slow dance with her at random moments, with no music on. He would always call her “darling” even when they were cross with each other. He always treated her like the most precious thing in the world…and cared for her until she passed from Alzheimer’s about 4 years ago.
He has always been my hero. He was a surgeon, donated his own time and money to go to Haiti to give vaccines to the kids there mutliple times. Paid not only for my entire college education, including my Masters degree, but ALSO wanted to pay for my husbands so that we would never have to worry about being in debt due to student loans.
This man has tried to show his whole family the world. He has given me opportunities in life I would have never known if it weren’t for him. He has been a teacher and a mentor and one of the best people I have ever known.
He didn’t want a funeral, so I guess I just needed a place to get that all out.
Before he passed I got to see him and tell him he was going to have a great grand son. I am so glad I had that moment.
On top of all of that, I am moving to a new house and was just told that our close date has been pushed back and I just feel so overwhelmed and sad. Not to mention I am pregnant and I am just praying all of this stress isn’t going to put any strain on my little one.
My heart hurts so badly, bees…. thank you for letting me vent.
Post # 2
I went through a very similar time this January. My grandpa was 95, and it was his time, but that doesn’t make it easy. No real advice, since I’m in the same sad boat, but sending internet hugs and good thoughts
Post # 3
I’m so sorry for your loss. He sounds like a wonderful man. I’ve gone through my own rough times recently too. There really is nothing anyone can say to make it better, but I hope you find some solace in the community here. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.
Post # 4
*Big internet hug* He sounds like an amazing man. I am so sorry for your loss.
Post # 5
MrsTeasandkeys: I’m so sorry for your loss. Many, many *hugs* your way! Your grandfather sounds like a really amazing man, I’m so glad you got to tell him you were pregnant and to have that moment with him. He had a long life and a great one from what you wrote, I’m sure he’s now in a really great place together with your grandmother and all the people he helped.
He’s also in good company. Today would have been my friend’s birthday, he died of cancer 5 years ago when he was just 29. I still miss him every day but the pain becomes more bearable after a while. Him and your grandfather are now watching over us, I’m sure. Stay strong, more *hugs*
Post # 6
Wow, your grandpa was a worderful man! He made this world a better place! I hope you soon find peace! This too shall pass…
Post # 7
MrsTeasandkeys: I’m sorry for your loss, but so happy for the relationship you had with him. It’s great you got to share the good news with him. It is so wonderful to have had someone like him in your life.
Post # 8
Internet hug! My grandfather died in October and my grandmother (other side) the day after thanksgiving. I miss them both so much.
Post # 9
Thank you so much everyone… it really means a lot to me. I don’t want to post anything on my facebook yet until I know everyone has been informed so its nice to have a place to put kind words about him.
Post # 10
MrsTeasandkeys: I am sorry for your loss. He sounds like an amazing man. He will never truly be gone as you have wonderful memories to sustain you
Post # 11
My grandma passed away today :(. 95 years old. I didn’t even know she was in that bad of shape…apparently hospice care had started (she lived with my aunt), but my parents didn’t tell me because they didn’t want to worry me. There will be a service but it hasn’t been scheduled yet, and I’m really antsy because I want to fly home for the service, but depending on what day it is we can afford it…or not. It’s either $300 or $700. which is stupid. and my cousins once removed (so my grandma was their great grandma) have been posting all these attention-seeking posts of FB and I’m just sick of it.
<br />And I’m really sad I have no living grandparents, and that I won’t have any at our wedding. It sucks.
Post # 12
StL.Ashley: I am so sorry, that doesn’t seem fair that they didn’t tell you.
I was lucky. My gradfather lives in a different state than me, but my father brought him to the city I live in and he was staying with my uncle when he passed. He was only put on hospice care about two weeks ago.. before that he was doing really well.
I hope you get to go home for the service. Hugs.
Post # 13
StL.Ashley: Sorry for your loss. I hope you can attend the service. My g-ma got sick and was in hospital. When I called, the girl did not let me speak to her. She died before I could reach her. At first I was hurt over the situation, but time really does heal sorrows.
Post # 14
I’m so so sorry! He sounds like an amazing man. I think it’s nice that your family is honoring his wish not to have a funeral. But I would encourage you to do something symbolic to say goodbye to him. Maybe visit someplace that he liked or take a hike with your husband and just give a nice toast to him at dinner. But something for you to say how much you love and appreciated him.
Post # 15
MrsTeasandkeys: I’m sorry for your loss as well…sorry for not saying that first. I’m just really…sad. Ugh.
beemyname: That’s so sad 🙁 My dad was on the way over the my aunt’s house to visit with my grandma (his mom) and called her to say “I’m on the way” and talked to my grandma. Then my aunt called 30 minutes later when my dad was still en route to say my grandma had passed. I feel so bad for him.