Post # 16
JenGirl: Thank you, I agree. I am hoping that the family can have a dinner in his honor to celebrate his life instead. I just want to surround myself with warm memories of him. I keep trying to remember the way he smelled (it sounds funny) but he always smelled like smoked oysters, gin and fire and I am hoping I can snag one of his shirts too…
Post # 17
MrsTeasandkeys: That sounds like a good idea. I think that can help bring closure since you are not having funeral.
Post # 18
MrsTeasandkeys: That sounds like a wonderful way to celebrate the life of an amazing man! Maybe over dessert you could break our the old family photo albums and tell great stories. We’ve been through a lot of funerals in the past few years in my family and that’s favorite part (is it weird to have a favorite part of death/funerals?) is when the family gets together and goes through pictures to pick some out for big picture boards we make for the funeral. The boards are nice for guests at the funeral to see the person all through their life, but my favorite part is sitting around going through pictures and remembering that old couch they usedd to have or that picnic you always went to. It’s a nice tribute.
Post # 19
MrsTeasandkeys: You already know this, but he sounds like an amazing man. I don’t have a lot of encouraging words to offer because I don’t do well with loss (having to not deal with it often..) and I know my life will be in shambles when my own grandpa passes. It will get easier, but it of course is perfectly okay to grieve however you wish and however you find comforting. You are in my thoughts and prayers!
Post # 20
MrsTeasandkeys: So sorry to hear about your grandfather. I’ll be praying for you and your family.
Post # 21
MrsTeasandkeys: Sending lots of hugs and prayers to you and your family. I am sorry for your loss.
Post # 22
Thank you everyone. It reall does mean a lot to me. I know it will get better… but its amazing how a sad thought can sneak up on you out of no where… I don’t know how I am going to make it through work tomorrow…
Post # 23
I’m so sorry for your loss. One of the things that absolutely sucks about growing up is losing our elderly family members. My great-grandmother passed away at the age of 98 two years ago, and I still miss her every single day. Honestly though, I really believe at that age they’re living for others rather than themselves. I saw how every movement, every breath became a struggle at the end. But it’s still so hard to reconcile the knowledge that they’re at peace, and the reality that you miss them so much.
Your grandfather sounds like he lived a full life, and contributed more to the world around him than most people do. It’s wonderful that he left such a legacy, and that you were able to say goodbye.
Post # 24
MrsTeasandkeys: my heart goes out to you. Your grandfather sounds like he was an amazing man, and I’m glad that he likely touched a countless number of lives.
Post # 25
MrsTeasandkeys: Hugs… I’m super sorry… Not sure if this helps but I lost 3 of my grandparents in 18 months when I just started university and they to helped teach me true love. We didn’t have funerals for my mom’s parents, they didn’t want them. What they wanted was for us to have a party and remember and discuss the good times… As much as it hurts right now, believe me when I say he would have wanted you to keep going. I have worked harder since I lost my grandparents because I want to live in a way which would make them proud, do the same. Honour his memory by being a good person.
Post # 26
I’m so sorry for your loss. My own wonderful grandfather passed away very suddenly in January and my heart still breaks. The only think that can give you any sort of solace now is trying your best to remember him and the fine man he was. Take the next few days to think back to all your memories, tell funny stories, laugh, cry. Just feel how you feel. There’s no right or wrong way.