- 5 years ago
- Wedding: November 2012
We are a mere 6 weeks away from the wedding and it seems that the tension of it all has started to get to both me and my fiance.
There are a million things that need to be done and a few big things that are immiently important. Namely the final numbers to give our venue so they can make arrangements their end and to give us our final invoices for everything.
The thing is my fiance has really short patience when it comes to anything wedding related and it starting to get to a point where I’ve not finished discussing something that needs a decision made to it and then we start snapping at each other. He’ll say I don’t want to talk about this now, and I’ll say but I’m not finished.
What’s worse is that his responses to my questions are vague and blase.
I keep trying to talk about the guest list numbers and every time I say, you need to chase your final few guests for confirmation if they are coming he goes yeah they are, without checking. I’ve tried explaining that for every guest we have it adds another £60, so casually assuming they are coming could cost us £300+ or save us that if we just check.
I keep asking him to do little bits, like at the end of last week I asked him to chase his final numbers, he said he’d do it by Monday, then today I’ve asked him if he’s got a response from his final numbers and he says not yet, I’ll do it tomorrow, and I say why can’t you do it now? (He’s only watching the TV, he can text and do that at the same time) I’ve got the vendors breathing down my neck asking for the details and he just seems to think I’m doing this to piss him off.
At the moment our count is 78 and he keeps saying, oh just say there are 81 coming, we can make up the numbers either way. I don’t want to add extra people to make up numbers when I’m trying to stop this wedding costing even more.
So to sum up we’ve had conversations like this over the past few weeks and each time we do it ends up with us both screaming at each other- which is COMPLETELY unlike us in relationship terms 🙁 It’s horrible because I feel like the joy of the wedding is being completely ruined, and worse off, it’s starting to make me feel pangs of ‘cold feet.’
Sorry for the essay, I didn’t realise it’d go on so long.