(Closed) Everybody knows registries are meant for showers!

posted 5 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 31
8674 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2016

you got her a wedding gift early, if you didn’t go to a shower.  If she sends you a thank you that makes it clear it’s a shower thank you, I’d just go over and be like “oh haha how funny: you made a mistake.  I didn’t go to the shower–this was my wedding gift. :)” 

Post # 32
4994 posts
Honey bee

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zulee :  What I normally do is for bridal showers, I give a personal item to the bride such as a robe or a gift card to Victoria’s Secret and bring it on the actual shower.

For weddings, I always bring the gift with me on the actual wedding day and I would either buy an item from the registry OR give a card with money if they do not have a registry. I never send the gift directly to the couple’s residence.

I never heard of buying gifts from the registry is only for the shower and giving monetary gifts for the wedding separately until here at weddingbees. Within my friends and family, buying an item from the registry is considered THE wedding gift itself.

Post # 33
911 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

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zulee :  Totally normal here. Registries (those who have them) are open before the shower and often closed after, which means that the couple wants money as wedding gifts. If the registry is meant for wedding gifts too, then usually there are gifts in the 20-70 range for the shower and the $75+for the wedding. So basically after the shower only expensive items are left on the registry to be given as wedding gifts. 

Most people dont bother with registries at all. Everyone just gifts money (the best gift of all lol)

Covering your plate is totally normal practice. Nothing to get offended about. It doesnt make the host a bad host. It makes the guest a good guest lol. 

We are in Toronto.

Since you gave a very generous shower gift, i would just buy something symbolic as a wedding gift and a card. Or I would go a gift card to the movies (enough for 1 outing) and write congrats…blah blah…just caise you are married dont forget tp date each other, hense the movie gift card..


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