(Closed) Everyone and their brother…

posted 8 years ago in Family
Post # 3
Hostess
16213 posts
Honey Beekeeper

How big is giant? We’re getting there. As in, our guest list is currently at 276 when we originally though it’d be between 150 and 200.

Post # 5
Member
13099 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

Who’s paying for the wedding?  If you and your Fiance are paying, you dad really can’t invite anyone he wants because it is your money and your budget.  If your parents are paying though, he can chose to spend his money how he wants and I’d try to just be happy that you don’t have to worry about the expense of a wedding.

If they’re paying but you’d really prefer a small wedding, try talking to your dad and explaining that and why it appeals to you.  No promises that it will work (unless you want to pay for the wedding instead), but maybe he’ll understand more where you’re coming from and try to meet you in the middle on your wishes.

My wedding will probabaly be about 175-180.  Not giant, but not small by any means either.

Post # 6
Member
412 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Our guest list is a 210 and we budgeted 170. This is all family and we broke it down to “who have we seen in the last year.” type of thing. If we didnt have a budget our wedding could have easily been 400 people. Its hard to tell people that they just didnt make the cut.

Post # 8
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13099 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

Have you tried to talk to him about the size you’d prefer?  Maybe he can try to meet you somewhere in the middle (ie bigger than you’d ideally plan but smaller than he’s imagining).

Also, has he actually looked in to how much 700 people is going to cost??  He must be planning on having a HUGE budget if he truely makes it that big.  A venue that large (if it even can be found) will cost a fortune and food and drink are really expensive (the venue food and drink are the vast majority of my budget without even doing anything fancy).  He may just be talking now without realizing what size his budget actually will hold him to.

Post # 9
Member
5823 posts
Bee Keeper

Well on the upside you’ll receive a TON of gifts, but I can completely understand your apprehension.  700 is ENORMOUS.  I don’t even know of a venue that would hold all those people!  (Neither for a wedding nor for a reception!)  You’d need to rent out a football stadium or something, sheesh!

Post # 10
Member
3176 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

700 PEOPLE!!! Like REAL people?!?! I agree with MightySapphire, where are you having your ceremony and reception??? That is a huge wedding!!!

Post # 11
Hostess
18643 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Does your dad realize how much money that is going to cost?  I hope he knows because that would be a big problem if he wants to invite all these people and can’t afford a place to put them or food to feed them!

Post # 12
Member
2006 posts
Buzzing bee

If I remember correctly Ms. Charleston Pearls comes from a wealthy family (I read your Stay-At-Home Wife post) and I don’t think budget is an issue for her father.

That being said, I would have a serious talk with your father about trimming the guest list down a little. Even if only 500 of the 700 come there is no way you would be able to spend ANY time with a majority of the guests.

Post # 13
Member
2186 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

im thinking he has NO clue how much weddings cost. i would suggest he get prices on things before he start verbally inviting people… just fyi – a wedding of 700 can easily push you over several thousands of dollars even if you just do a punch and pie kinda thing

Post # 14
Member
14186 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Yeah maybe he doesn’t realize what 700 people is going to cost? For a nice wedding, I’m thinking 300K, easily….unless your dad is Bill Gates, I imagine that number will probably make him think twice about THAT many people.

Also, if you don’t want 700 people at your wedding, talk to your dad about it. It sounds like he’s just excited and wants everyone to come see you and throw you a big party.

Plus, how in the WORLD would you ever get to thank people or spend any time with them?

A coworker of mine had 500 people and he said his wedding felt more like a zoo than anything. No matter what your dad would prefer, your feelings should be taken into consideration, too. If you feel 700 is too much, let him know.

Post # 15
Member
2788 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

Is this guest list just you father’s friends or does it include your FI’s family’s list as well?

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