(Closed) Everyone around me is getting engaged!

posted 5 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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903 posts
Busy bee

Yes, I know the feeling. I try very hard to be happy for others getting engaged and married and really I am. But I’d like for us to be engaged already! It’s happening soon enough, I’m just not patient at all. And the worst is that others in our circle keep asking me about wedding plans!

It seems like everyone I know is having babies, too. Similar feelings.

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

That is a lot of people!.. Today me and my SO ran in to the mall (because he wanted to buy a baseballcap) lol.. And we walk in and I’m surrounded by 4! Different jewelry stores! 4!.. It really  upset me.. Maybe that’s dramatic of me, but I couldn’t help but be a little bitter towards him in that moment 

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2015 - Thorpewood

I know what you mean!  I have a friend who is getting engaged incredibly soon and then another who’s getting engaged in November when her boyfriend comes back from basic training.

I’m so jealous.  I’ve been with my boyfriend for years and the one getting engaged in November has been with her guy for, like, five months.  I’m not judging them (or at least not like an “I don’t think you deserve to be engaged” way), I’m just jealous that I’ve been waiting for so long and she hasn’t.

Petty, I know.  I feel like a terrible person for saying that but there you go.  Urgh.

I’m so happy for them though in that it’s great to meet that person you want to spend your life with.  But yeah.  I am jealous.

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I don’t have experience with all my friends getting engaged when I was waiting but when I was first TTC (years ago) everyone I knew was getting PREGNANT….seriously over 40 baby showers in 5 years.  I quit counting after that.

A wise old woman told me once (during my earlier TTC days) that it is because of the “stage of life” that I was in….meaning once I graduated HS, everyone was getting married, then there is a HUGE age gap (20-42 year olds) when all those married people start popping out babies. 

Honestly, she was right and now I try to not to pay attention to anyone else’s life….your time will come I promise!!!!

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

*raises hand* Except it’s a winter of engagement for me. Three couples I know have gotten engaged. One has been together for almost three years and live and have a child together. The second couple (the bride is one of my closest girlfriends and I’m going to be one of her bridesmaids Smile) have been together for about six months – yes that’s right, six months. They were looking at rings three months into the relationship. And the third couple (the bride is the SO’s stepsister) have been together for just under a year and they’ve recently discovered that she’s pregnant! Laughing

It’s weird because whilst I have friends who are getting engaged/married/having children, I also have friends who have never been in relationships/are nowhere near that stage in their lives where they are even considering marriage and babies. So there’s a nice balance there.

Post # 8
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Blushing bee

Ugh, yes…and weddings galore too! I’m very happy for then, so happy that they’ve found someone to be with! 

But NONE of them have been together even half the amount of time that SO and I’ve been together for. I do know that a proposal is coming though…my guess is by December. 

Just gotta hang in there a little longer!

Post # 9
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Newbee

Yup same here it’s all around me, in fact my cousin just got engaged two days ago and now I have the honor of being one of her *bridesmaids. Hang in there bees our day will be here soon!

Post # 10
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384 posts
Helper bee

I have engagements and bridal parties this year… It’s hard to deal! 

Post # 12
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124 posts
Blushing bee

Yep. So many couples.  It feels like everytime I go on FB a new couple is engaged.  I’ve definitely been dating my SO longer than everyone else.  It’s lovely that they are getting engaged, but it definitely puts me into a mini sad period.  I hate waiting!

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I’ve been “going through this” for years 🙂

 

I’m 25 and most of my friends from over the years are engaged, married, having babies, or a combo of more than one of those things 😛

 

I’m waiting. Patiently. I think it’s gonna happen for me this year 🙂

Post # 14
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1071 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Oh I know! I’m happy for my brother and his FI who just got engaged yesterday, but I’m 4 years older and ready to just get there already. 

I’d like to just hide out for the next 3 weeks. If I didn’t have to have any contact with family (wishful thinking) or some of our friends, it would make things a lot easier. I know 3 weeks isn’t that long, but it seems like it since I’ve been waiting since February. 

Glad I can vent to you ladies though!!

Post # 15
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Blushing bee

This has been going on in my circle for a long time! Several years! First it was kids, now it’s engagements! And I still have neither!  

I am happy for my friends, but I can identify with your frustration too. My bf and I will be coming up on our 2 years in January and I just feel like we are in a stand still 🙁 It’s ridiculously frustrating. Everyone around me is getting engaged, moving in with SO or having kids and they haven’t even been with their bf’s for that long.

 

Hang in there! It will happen 🙂

 

Post # 16
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2015 - Backyard

Yep! And it makes it so much worse that we had initially planned on getting engaged this summer, and are pushing it back another year for me to graduate with my master’s first. So every time I see another one getting engaged, I’m like “that was supposed to be me!” 🙁  

In the long run though, our times will come and it will be so much more special and important because they waited for the time to be right. 

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