(Closed) Everyone asking to be in my bridal party?

posted 4 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 16
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21 posts
Newbee

I eloped and from female friends I got a lot of “awwwwww, but I wanted to be a bridesmaid!” responses.

Post # 17
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338 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

zombieseatpineapple:  I have two friends fighting over being Maid/Matron of Honor when I haven’t even asked them to be in my bridal party yet. 

Post # 21
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

Yeah wow she was definitely pretty dramatastic. I will say that I assumed I was Maid/Matron of Honor at a wedding once (I also thought I was her best friend at the time, turned out the person she always complained to me about was her best friend and MOH). Thought that was a little strange but people grow apart and grow together and that’s just how things are. I apologized for making the assumption immediately, and I’m still really pumped that her and her Fiance are getting married. And you bet I’ll be there to help her out any way I can, bridal party or no (turns out she isn’t having bridesmaids, only MOH). Am I jealous of her MOH? Probably. Does that matter at the end of the day? Absolutely not. I feel terrible for assuming anything and would NEVER try to make anything negative out of two of my closest friends getting married! 

Anyone who throws a tantrum about not being in a bridal party is probably not anyone you want in your bridal party anyways. The whole debate on “duties” aside, bridesmaids are supposed to be there for support and positive energy, and because they’re special to the couple, not for the selfish reasons of having pictures taken in a pretty dress. 

Post # 22
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338 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

zombieseatpineapple:  they will probably be in my party as they are my oldest friends, but the drama makes me second guess that decision! 

Post # 23
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Busy bee

We did siblings only – 2 sisters and 2 brothers between us. And it was fine. It was easier to tell freinds that it was “family only” so no one took it too personal. 

Yes, your freinds and niece are being rude. No, you don’t owe them anything. 

Post # 24
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Newbee
  • Wedding: July 2016

It is very awkward isn’t it. Especially when you haven’t been engaged for long or haven’t fully decided.

I had quite a few friends and family ask me if they can be my bridesmaid or drop the “I better be a bridesmaid” line. I laughed them all off Because i can be a bit of a peace keeper (read that as people pleaser) at times so I decided not to make any decisions until 1 year had passed.

Weirdly enough NONE of my chose bridesmaids asked or really expected it. I did boxes and then waited a good week before I shared on social media just so that those people who asked would know I’ve made a decision.

I spoke to a long lost cousin for a catch up. Haven’t seen her in YEARS. About half way into our convo I mentioned ed that my bridesmaids came dress shipping with me and she literally gasped. She was like “What? Omg!  You mean I’m not a bridesmaid??” I couldn’t help but laugh because it was so strange 

 

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