(Closed) EVERYONE backed out on my bachelorette party:(

posted 8 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
8353 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2011

I think you should just go and enjoy yourself with your closest friends. I am sure you will have an awesome time. Since there are only five or six of you, you should be able to do a lot more.

Post # 4
136 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

i’m sorry you’re so upset… sounds like those girls could have at least handled the situation better if they weren’t going to be able to go. my advice? don’t be bummed- i say screw them! four or five people is ALL you need to have a blast on any trip, in my opinion… let alone VEGAS 🙂 i hope you have an amazing time and leave all your troubles behind.

Post # 5
1810 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

Oh, I definitely think it would still be worth it and I think you’ll have a better time knowing you’re with people who truly care about you and are your closest friends. 4-5 girls is absolutely plenty and I think you’ll have a wonderful time. 🙂

And I’m sorry those other girls did that!

Post # 6
966 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

My best friend had… all but me back out on her.  It was pathetic, and I REALLY wish I could make it up to her somehow (she was talking about inviting the same people to my bachelorette party – no thanks.)  It’s not just you.

And it’ll be great – and you’re going to be there with truly good friends.

Post # 7
1756 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

A similar thing happened with me. My Maid/Matron of Honor invited 18 people to my shower/bachelorette weekend, based in DC. A lot of the invitees live in Pittsburgh (where I live). Five attended the shower and six came to the bachelorette. Only one person who declined told me she was unable to attend, and she ended up arranging a spa day for us back in Pittsburgh. As for the rest of them, I’m still really hurt. With that said – GO! GO! GO! I had a *fantastic* time at my bachelorette party, even with the low turnout. 

Post # 8
767 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I think you’ll still have fun with a small group- especially if these are your close friends. You can’t really worry about the people that bailed. It REALLY sucks, but for many people their priority is to themselves. I’d just assume they don’t know how much this means to you, not that they don’t want to go. I’ve had parties recently, notably my last Birthday party, where I was so hurt that people said they would come and then didn’t show up. Ugh! people can be so annoying. But in the end, your Maid/Matron of Honor has planned a great bachelorette, so enjoy it!

Post # 9
401 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I think you should still go and enjoy yourself—some people I tell ya they didnt even have the decency to call, to be honest if it were me I would uninvite them from my wedding as well because what they did is disrespectful and childish. I am so sorry this happen to you….This is one of the reasons why I am not doing a bachelorette party or bridal shower…

Post # 10
2058 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

GO – PLEASE GO – – My bachelorette is this weekend in SF and I went through a very similar situation.  14 girls were invited to my bachelorette – its going to be my bm’s only and one of them will be missing, she is my closest friend!  Including me there are 7 of us. 

I was so hurt when my bff let me know she wouldn’t be making it. I was beyond hurt – I was crushed devastated.  Then I became angry flat out mad and I just didn’t get it. But then I didn’t want to get it. I knew that whatever it was – it was and there wasn’t anything I could do.

NO these friends don’t like you less.  They still like you and love you they just aren’t able to make it and they probably feel like crap.  Go and have the best time of your life. Live it up – the friends that are going they’ll make it worth every second for you!

Be sure to take tons of pictures Wink

Post # 11
1222 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Go!!! The last time I was in Vegas I saw a bride-to-be w/ 2 of her friends & they were having a blast! Do not let the others get you down. Your good friends want to go & I’m sure they’re as excited as you are, and are looking forward to showing you a great time.

I have to say, I’m in the exact same situation as you. But I made the decision that I was not going to let it bother me. As long as people are there for the wedding, I am a-okay.

Post # 12
913 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

4-5 people in Vegas will still be TONS of fun!!  And it will be even better because at least you will KNOW you will be having fun because they WANT to be there!!!

Have fun!

Post # 13
708 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

5 people in Vegas is the perfect amount! Any more and it’s like herding cattle. You are going to have a ball. The other girls backing out is not a reflection on you at all. There are a million reasons. times are hard, money is tight, the boyfriend doesn’t like the idea of a girls weekend in vegas, work, the list goes on and on. Obviously they didn’t handle it very well, but it doesn’t mean they don’t like, you. Have the best time in Vegas. Make sure to hydrate 🙂

Post # 14
1995 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

If you really want to go there, then go!!  It’ll be fun even with less people.  Personally we couldn’t arrrange such an event with girls all over the country and in different financial situations.  We had a party – just local bars 2 nights before the wedding when they all got into town.  Maybe you could do something like that.

Post # 15
2858 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011 - Bartram's Garden

I think you should go anyway. In my experience, large groups of girls are a giant pain in the ass. You’ll probably have MORE fun with a small group since it’ll be more laid back.

Post # 16
6661 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

I would personally rather be surrounded by 4 of my closest friends who obviously really wanted to be there than 10 people who were iffy about it and didn’t have my best interests in mind. This same thing happened at my MI shower (where Darling Husband is from). My wonderful MIL’s spent so much time, money and energy organizing it and most of the invitees ended up backing out of coming. We were originally expecting around 15-20 and it ended up being 8 of us. But it ended up being such a great day and the bonus was that i got to spend more quality time with the 7 ladies who obviously I’m closest to! It was easier for us to do all of the activites we had planned and just worked out for the better.

Trust me, at your bachelorette party you don’t want anyone comign who is a ‘diva’ and will take the spotlight away from you. The people who are making the effort sound like they are clearly doing it selflessly for you so it sounds like a really perfect situation to me!

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