Post # 1
I am so bummed. For the last two months, my Maid/Matron of Honor has tried putting together a bachelorette party in vegas. We invited nearly 13 or 14 people, of which most said they were coming. A few backed out prior to booking hotel, but once hotel was booked and paid for, about 6 other people backed out. I thought these people were my “friends” and I’m very disappointed, hurt and upset needless to say. Each person has some excuse w/ all kinds of different reasons. Please be honest, do these gals just not like me for some reason??? I truly don’t get it. To make matters worse, many backed out after committed financially etc. and none of them bothered to call me, email me or anything. I had to find out through my friend. It’s especially hurtful since I find myself trying to always be there for others.
My question is, it’s now down to four or five people including me. My closest friends of course. Is it even worth going to vegas or is that silly w/ only four people? This has been a very hard and hurtful time when I thought it would be the most joyous part of my life. I am just not this type of person to do this to someone else. Thanks for any comments:)
Post # 3
I think you should just go and enjoy yourself with your closest friends. I am sure you will have an awesome time. Since there are only five or six of you, you should be able to do a lot more.
Post # 4
i’m sorry you’re so upset… sounds like those girls could have at least handled the situation better if they weren’t going to be able to go. my advice? don’t be bummed- i say screw them! four or five people is ALL you need to have a blast on any trip, in my opinion… let alone VEGAS 🙂 i hope you have an amazing time and leave all your troubles behind.
Post # 5
Oh, I definitely think it would still be worth it and I think you’ll have a better time knowing you’re with people who truly care about you and are your closest friends. 4-5 girls is absolutely plenty and I think you’ll have a wonderful time. 🙂
And I’m sorry those other girls did that!
Post # 6
My best friend had… all but me back out on her. It was pathetic, and I REALLY wish I could make it up to her somehow (she was talking about inviting the same people to my bachelorette party – no thanks.) It’s not just you.
And it’ll be great – and you’re going to be there with truly good friends.
Post # 7
A similar thing happened with me. My Maid/Matron of Honor invited 18 people to my shower/bachelorette weekend, based in DC. A lot of the invitees live in Pittsburgh (where I live). Five attended the shower and six came to the bachelorette. Only one person who declined told me she was unable to attend, and she ended up arranging a spa day for us back in Pittsburgh. As for the rest of them, I’m still really hurt. With that said – GO! GO! GO! I had a *fantastic* time at my bachelorette party, even with the low turnout.
Post # 8
I think you’ll still have fun with a small group- especially if these are your close friends. You can’t really worry about the people that bailed. It REALLY sucks, but for many people their priority is to themselves. I’d just assume they don’t know how much this means to you, not that they don’t want to go. I’ve had parties recently, notably my last Birthday party, where I was so hurt that people said they would come and then didn’t show up. Ugh! people can be so annoying. But in the end, your Maid/Matron of Honor has planned a great bachelorette, so enjoy it!
Post # 9
I think you should still go and enjoy yourself—some people I tell ya they didnt even have the decency to call, to be honest if it were me I would uninvite them from my wedding as well because what they did is disrespectful and childish. I am so sorry this happen to you….This is one of the reasons why I am not doing a bachelorette party or bridal shower…
Post # 10
GO – PLEASE GO – – My bachelorette is this weekend in SF and I went through a very similar situation. 14 girls were invited to my bachelorette – its going to be my bm’s only and one of them will be missing, she is my closest friend! Including me there are 7 of us.
I was so hurt when my bff let me know she wouldn’t be making it. I was beyond hurt – I was crushed devastated. Then I became angry flat out mad and I just didn’t get it. But then I didn’t want to get it. I knew that whatever it was – it was and there wasn’t anything I could do.
NO these friends don’t like you less. They still like you and love you they just aren’t able to make it and they probably feel like crap. Go and have the best time of your life. Live it up – the friends that are going they’ll make it worth every second for you!
Be sure to take tons of pictures
Post # 11
Go!!! The last time I was in Vegas I saw a bride-to-be w/ 2 of her friends & they were having a blast! Do not let the others get you down. Your good friends want to go & I’m sure they’re as excited as you are, and are looking forward to showing you a great time.
I have to say, I’m in the exact same situation as you. But I made the decision that I was not going to let it bother me. As long as people are there for the wedding, I am a-okay.
Post # 12
4-5 people in Vegas will still be TONS of fun!! And it will be even better because at least you will KNOW you will be having fun because they WANT to be there!!!
Post # 13
5 people in Vegas is the perfect amount! Any more and it’s like herding cattle. You are going to have a ball. The other girls backing out is not a reflection on you at all. There are a million reasons. times are hard, money is tight, the boyfriend doesn’t like the idea of a girls weekend in vegas, work, the list goes on and on. Obviously they didn’t handle it very well, but it doesn’t mean they don’t like, you. Have the best time in Vegas. Make sure to hydrate 🙂
Post # 14
If you really want to go there, then go!! It’ll be fun even with less people. Personally we couldn’t arrrange such an event with girls all over the country and in different financial situations. We had a party – just local bars 2 nights before the wedding when they all got into town. Maybe you could do something like that.
Post # 15
- Wedding: May 2011 - Bartram's Garden
I think you should go anyway. In my experience, large groups of girls are a giant pain in the ass. You’ll probably have MORE fun with a small group since it’ll be more laid back.
Post # 16
I would personally rather be surrounded by 4 of my closest friends who obviously really wanted to be there than 10 people who were iffy about it and didn’t have my best interests in mind. This same thing happened at my MI shower (where Darling Husband is from). My wonderful MIL’s spent so much time, money and energy organizing it and most of the invitees ended up backing out of coming. We were originally expecting around 15-20 and it ended up being 8 of us. But it ended up being such a great day and the bonus was that i got to spend more quality time with the 7 ladies who obviously I’m closest to! It was easier for us to do all of the activites we had planned and just worked out for the better.
Trust me, at your bachelorette party you don’t want anyone comign who is a ‘diva’ and will take the spotlight away from you. The people who are making the effort sound like they are clearly doing it selflessly for you so it sounds like a really perfect situation to me!