Everyone Canceled on Bachelorette Weekend

posted 3 years ago in Parties
Post # 46
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Bee Keeper

libellules :  I can see this being the case, but if it was just about psyching themselves up to go to something they weren’t keen on- this is the kind of thing you suck up and do for someone you care about. I’ve gone to a church picnic (I’m an athiest with an aversion to overly mayo-ed potato salad that’s been sitting in the sun for 6 hours, but I still went to accompany my Nana), graduation ceremonies (long winded snooze-fests) and Tupperware parties (lol even bought stuff)….sometimes you do things you don’t enjoy- or don’t think you’ll enjoy- for the benefit of someone else. So if anyone bailed simply because they didn’t want to go, after saying they would go, selfish thing to do and inconsiderate of OP’s feelings.

ohplease :  It does sound good….kinda want to book my own cabin now 🙂

 

Post # 47
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Bumble bee

Im so mad at them for you and I really think they should pay you some of the costs for backing out! How much did you spend for it? I do still think you should go anyway, whether its you and 1 friend, or you alone or a group and just enjoy yourself! Even just the two of you, you can eat snacks, relax, watch movies, go for a walk and explore the area. I would even go alone, and take a book, some spa things and just really relax. 

If you really dont want to go anymore, then do try to advertise it and sell it to get some costs back. Where in the midwest is the cabin? Maybe theres someone on here nearby that might be interested. 

Post # 48
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

So rude. I think everyone who canceled past the allowed time frame should still pay – you should let them know you still expect their share of the $.

Post # 49
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA

Wow, what a dick move.  I would ice out those friends TBH, besides the ones who let you know in a timely manner with decent excuses.  That is just so not cool.

Another vote here for going alone and turning it into a relaxing solo getaway!!  Hang out by the lake, read, take a bath, drink wine in the afternoon, etc!  That sounds like an amazing weekend.  Or pack up the critters and go with your Fiance.  I know you said your dog is old, but bring a couple baby gates and his bed and I’m sure he will be fine.

Post # 50
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

libellules :  I think the point is that they AGREED to do it. And voted. And knew she’d be paying. Then backed out last minute. Fwiw, I also agree a sinus infections is a legitimate reason. 

I think whether or not it’s “their thing” is sort of irrelevant once they voted and all agreed to go. If they didn’t want to, they could’ve been adults and good friends and spoken up about it before letting it get so far. That’s just terrible. And that’s the issue here that’s up for discussion. 

I feel the way you do. But I wouldn’t have committed to a weekend doing it if I knew I wouldn’t want to do it. Not knowing someone else would be paying. So if I was dumb enough to commit to something like that, I would at least suck it up and be a good friend and go and try to make the best of it. I’m sure you would too! 

Post # 51
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

UGH. I hate to say it OP (and maybe you know it by now) but none of these girls are as good of friends as you think they are. I know weekend-long bachelorette parties aren’t everyone’s cup of tea, but considering they all said they’d prefer the weekend trip over a day outing, let you book and pay for everything and then backed out? I’d be so pissed! And the petty in me wants to say I’d tell them not to bother coming to the wedding so I could at least recoup those costs. What about family members? At this point I’d grab anyone I could and go try to have a great weekend away.

Post # 52
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Busy bee

libellules :  A bachlorette party does not have be the way you described it. It doesnt have to be filled with excessive drinking, penis toys etc. 

For my bachlorette we are flying to an all inclusive resort in the Cayman Islands filled with spa appointments and sunbathing. 

 

Post # 53
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

withluv :  Yeah, your bacholorette would suck to most bees here probably.  Fly?!?!  for a weekend?!!?  And pay for an all inclusive… just for a bachelorette party?!?!   Dont want to waste that kinda money on a bachelorette party for a whoooooole weekend!  Who do you think you are *making* people spend their money on “you” like that. //end sarcasm

Yeah, that sounds awesome.  My friend had a weekend bachelorette in NYC and it was awesome.  I love a good excuse like a bachlorette pary to get all the girls together to have a good time!  We dont do it nearly enough on our own accord cause life just gets in the way. 

Post # 54
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2017

withluv :  But again – I have zero desire to go on a weekend getaway with anyone who isn’t Fiance. I can’t imagine asking my BMs to fly out of the country for a long weekend O.O.

Post # 55
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Busy bee

pinkshoes :  My weekend will include my female cousins and close friends, Im treating them. 

Just because you personally cannot afford something does not mean you should put others down.  

Post # 56
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

withluv :  I think you missed the *end sarcasm* remark at the end there……. And how my *real* comment actualy started with “that sounds awesome”.   

Post # 57
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Busy bee

pinkshoes :  My apologies – There are so many mean bees on here that I misunderstood your comment. 

NYC sounds like a great place for a girls trip too!

Post # 58
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

withluv :  No problem.  Sarcasm is hard to get across in typing.  🙂  But case and point, another poster right after me says they would not want to ogo on a weekend away with anyone but their SO.  I mean, I get a whole week away I would be a bit much (unless my SO was limited on vacation time and I wasn’t.  heck, I’ve left him behind to go to Spain for a week with some girl friends before)… but a weekend once in a blue moon, sure thing!  Does one reallly neeeed to be attached to their SO every. single. weekend…To each their own I guess.  

Post # 59
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Busy bee

pinkshoes :  Agreed! I think its healthy to have outings with our friends separately. Im always up for a girls trip! ❤

Post # 60
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Busy bee

countingstars :  yeah! when is it and where is it? I could use a girls weekend. Either way I’m sorry this happened, it stinks.

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