- 7 years ago
- Wedding: May 2013
So the good news – I was proposed to this Saturday at a sci fi/anime con we’ve attended for years. I was dressed quasi-princessy, he came dressed in high end renfaire. It was perfect for the two of us.
Later that night, when we’re alone – he asks me if I like the ring. My response “Yes, it’s pretty” his answer ” You don’t really like it.”
I tried to be positive and happy, which was easy – i was thrilled after 3.5 years my boyfriend proposed. I was so happy.
The Engagement ring isn’t really my style. It’s a white gold band with diamon pave, with a small marquise stone. It’s a whole lot of sparkle for the buck, but.. actually way too glitzy for my taste.
He realized this just by the tone of my response, even though I was happy. He’s just like “oops I goofed.”
I realize it’s the man that is important not the ring.
However, my parents have realized I don’t really like it either. I’m not a big jewelry wearer as I just don’t tend to take the time to put jewelry on very often, and of course, I didn’t put on the ring this morning – small oversight, speaks volumes.
My mother now is tryign to force my grandmothers 0.75 carat diamond ring on me. I’ve never seen it, but I adored my grandmother and have one other piece of jewelry (a Christian cross) that I love … adore because it was hers. I don’t wear it except on holidays as I don’t share the same religious views.
So she said – if he had asked my parents permission first, she would have given him my grandmother’s diamond to have reset in a modern setting.
So everyone has their own agenda….
He ultimately gave me the probably last ring I would ever pick out myself. It’s beautiful, but couldn’t be further from my style.
My mother knows my style, and wants to force my grandmother’s ring on me when I’ve never seen it.
She’s teling me to talk about it, but I don’t want to insult him. I don’t want his feelings hurt, as he spent months agonizing over what to get me (he told me this).