Post # 1
and they haven’t hesitated to tell us!
I gave birth 7 days ago and my husband and I named our son the only name we have ever liked for a male, and that name is Eden. My husbands coworker is named Eden and we love his name and so named our son Eden as well.
Everyone, and I mean absolutely everyone had told us the name is too feminine and that we should change it. Even the bank officer and our GP. They want us to switch his names around (his middle name is Sam so instead of Eden Sam, they want us to call him Sam Eden).
Everytime someone makes a comment it really hurts me. And I’m worried about our son. We called the person we named him after and asked him if he likes his name and he said he loves it. He said a few people have told him its a girls name but he doesn’t care.
My husband in particular wants to stick with the name and has said that by saying a boy can’t have a girls name, you’re implying that it’s because women are weak and there fore giving it to a man implies women are weak. My husband believes strongly in feminism.
I however am worried my son will be picked on for his name.
Do I change it or leave it?
Post # 2
cathiemaney : Leave it. He can always go by “Sam” if he wants to in the future. I am a nurse and have patient’s go by their middle name (or other names completely) all the time….for example a Jane Susanne would go by Susanne (not a real patient of mine but Jane Doe didn’t work like I wanted it to lol). Don’t worry about others’ opinions. It is YOUR son.
Post # 3
Sod what others think he is your son and if you both love the name that is all that matters!! Hasn’t Blake Lively named her daughter James anyway?! So the next time you hear nonsense like it is a girls name or a little bit feminine just say you are keeping up with celebrities.
For the record, I don’t think it’s too feminine I think Eden is lovely
Post # 4
Leave it. You love it, your Darling Husband loves it, and those are the only two opinions that matter. I know a girl named Michael. People told the parents they couldn’t name her that because it was a boys name, and their response to anyone who said that was, “well now it’s a girls name, too.”
Post # 5
People are dicks. Keep it.
Post # 6
Agree with sweatergal. People will find a problem with every name. I love that you chose something unique. If he hates it he can go by Sam.
Post # 7
Thanks guys. I really needed the positive comments. I
know there is a famous football player that plays for Chelsea whose name is Eden as well (Eden Hazard).
I personally don’t know any female Edens but now I know two (My son and my husbands coworker).
Post # 8
I don’t think it sounds really feminine. I think it sounds super biblical, which could be an issue, but much like the names Aiden, Hayden and Jaiden, it’s a pretty solid unisex name. If you and your husband love it, that’s what matters. If your son doesn’t, Sam is a pretty good backup plan. I’d stick with the name you and your husband love and tell everyone else to get used to it.
Post # 9
pbubs : my husband and I aren’t religious but we live in a really strong Christian country so I think the name would work in his favour
Post # 10
I really don’t like it when people use celebrities’ kids as a defense of unusual names. They live in a completely different sphere, and so many of these names are just out of touch with reality. Most children will not be in classrooms full of kids with names like Coco, Apple, Pilot, Audio, Bear and Blue Ivy.
I know my opinion will probably be unpopular, but I don’t believe that the only thing that matters is whether or not you and your husband love the name. What matters is this person’s life. They are the ones who wil be going to school and applying for jobs. I know my employer would call Sam before Eden any day. Some friends of my husband named their son Cedar because they just loved it. Cedar himself, not so much. Like it or not, names have connotations, whether they are true or not. It would be lovely if this wasn’t the case.
Your choice whether or not to change the name, but maybe at least give him the option of another middle name he can use if he wants to.
Post # 11
Bunnyang : I agree with you re. he has to be the one to live with the name hence the reason I’m asking the question but as an employer myself, I would be a complete idiot to discriminate against someone just because of their name, I employ the most capable, most competent person for the job. Maybe it’s different fields (im a health professional) but I don’t really give a crap what your name is (and in healthcare, we tend to get a variety of different names due to different ethnic backgrounds).
Post # 12
I’m not a huge fan of the name for a boy but it’s your son. He may get teased by kids at school though. Kids are mean and if they hear their parents say something about the name, that’ll transfer to them. I know quite a few Eden’s though who are girls so that may colour my opinion of the name.
Post # 13
I agree with PP who say that it’s not *just* about whether the parents love the name and that celebrities aren’t a great standard against which to measure name “normality” — that being said, I don’t think Eden is so out there that it’s worth changing his name. He can go by Eddy, even before he goes by “Sam” if he really hates his name that much.
I will be honest that if I were to see Eden written (without knowing the person), I would expect a woman. Mainly because I personally know of female Edens but no male Edens. However I think that’s more personal than it is societal 🙂
My great-uncle was Elden and it’s been on my list of considerations even though most people seem to dislike it. If you like it, and you can imagine your child going through life with the name — go for it!
Post # 14
When I think of Eden I think of Eden Wood the child contestant on Toddlers and Tiaras. However Eden is a unisex name since The Garden of Eden has no sex what so ever.
Yeah just go with what makes you happy. I’m sure if your Eden dislikes his name he can legally change it in the future.
Post # 15
The name Eden actually sounds more masculine than feminine to me. I think it is the hard “d” sound. If you decide to keep it, hopefully you won’t be fazed by those comments soon. And maybe come up with some witty responses to that in the mean time?