- 4 years ago
- Wedding: May 2014
Hi Bee’s –
I have written a few times about the struggles I had been having with my FMIL. We’ve had several heart to hearts and are working through our issues. I really thought we were doing good the last two months, but now I realize she just put everything into my bridal party. All the annoying things she usually says/does to me she has been doing to them. They have been keeping in from me for a while, but my maid of honor called me yesterday because “she literally couldn’t take it anymore”.
I was so confused. First, she tells me that my FSIL (who is 19) refuses to answer any questions without asking my FMIL what she thinks. Therefore dragging my FMIL into conversations that perhaps the Bridal party should only discuss. This was mainly into the planning of my shower (which was freaking amazing). My Maids of honors would text everyone “hey, we are going to meet at X time to set up for the shower, does this work for you”. FSIL would reply “I’m going to check with my mom and get back to you”. So FMIL calls everyone in the Bridal party and gives her opinion on EVERYTHING. Telling them “in my day we did this…please contact me for inquiries with MY daughter, she is only 19”. Basically ALL of the issues that we have been working through, nothing has changed!
There are more issues that they’ve been dealing with, but frankly, they just find her extremely annoying. This has in a way, brought back ALL those feelings I have had for a while. All of them said “There is no way I could have a MIL like that”. At the shower, she was a bit over the top. Screaming “LOOK AT ME!!!” over and over again. It actually didn’t bother me because I was so caught up in the moment, but it apparently drove everyone there insane. They couldn’t believe how she was behaving.
They are all worried about my rehearsal dinner. I actually wrote a post about this back when my FSIL graduated from HS. She talked about that graduation party like she had been planning for weeks. When in fact, the day before she ran around town buying everything, and it was just SO disorganized. I’m type A extreme. My engagement party and bridal shower have been everything I have dreamt of since I was a child. I feel like I am going to be SOOO disappointed in my rehearsal.
Of course at the end of the day it doesn’t matter because I’m getting married. I just don’t know how to deal.