(Closed) "Everyone is Engaged, I'm Trying to Build a Career…"

posted 5 years ago in The Lounge
Post # 3
8882 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

i think it is just a way to deflect the pain of not being married and starting a family yet.


Post # 5
431 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

@ajillity81:  Yup!

Just recently some girl on my fb posted something about “Being 30 and unmarried? Sounds good to me!” but she’s the one who’s always a bridesmaid and…you know.

Post # 6
12247 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

Yep. It’s a shame there’s a national law against having a career once you get married!

Wait, there’s no such law? Well, next you’re going to tell me I can still travel and grow as a person when I’m married!

WHAT! What do you MEAN that life doesn’t end and stagnate when you get married and start a family? BLASPHEMY!

Post # 7
986 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Why do you care so much about some silly ecard or whatever they’re called? Do your own thing and don’t worry what others think. And I doubt they are jealous, as is the default assumption. Believe it or not, career is more important than babies for some people.


Post # 8
2571 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@ajillity81:  +1

Plus playing the devil’s advocate here, now is the time (engagement season and all) for your colleagues to be seeing a lot of engagement announcements with wedding Save-The-Date Cards. If they are not settled in that part of their life yet, they may be feeling left out/insecure.

Post # 10
2890 posts
Sugar bee

@Meant2Bee:  I can see the point with the babies, given that most of the times the woman has to put her career on hold at least some time during the first years. But the wedding, I don’t get it ? It’s just a day, and it changes nothing to your day to day routine ? 

Post # 11
1846 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

This doesn’t offend me at all, maybe it’s just me, but I wouldn’t assume the person posting it was saying that because I’m married with a kid doesn’t mean I don’t have a good career, just that they are currently more focused on that then being engaged/married. 

Post # 13
4495 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Am I missing something? Can engaged/married people not have successful careers? Kind of a silly ecard IMO. Someone just trying to rationalize why they are doing things differently than the majority of other people at that point in their lives.

Post # 14
561 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

let’s all remember that if someone has an opinion that we perceive as an insult, the only possible explanation is that they are jealous. 

Post # 15
8695 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

@Fluffmallow:  +1 I was thinking it but didnt say it. There are those e-cards about EVERYTHING and many can be offensive if you let them. I dont let them bother me at all. 

Post # 16
3296 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013 - An amazing non-profit retreat

@annifer:  I was hunting for the “like” button for that one.

It’s just to each their own. I kinda sorta gave up my career goals for marriage *backs away slowly* BUT in my defense, if I gave them up, I couldn’t have wanted it that badly in the first place.

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