Post # 1
So my step mother in law posted about us telling our family the gender of our baby (LITTLE GIRL!) this weekend and a woman she knows responded:
“I don’t get wanting to know. I didn’t. I am not convinced that enough research has been done on bombarding fetuses with sound waves in the womb being a good thing. I had my kids at home with a midwifte — so no, I’m not an old fogey.“
Honestly, to each their own. If it is your decision to not have an ultrasound when you are pregnant then more power to you. HOWEVER, DO NOT judge ME as a parent because I choose to have an anatomy scan to make sure my child is healthy. I DID NOT get an ultrasound just to find out the gender of my child. But I also do not judge anyone who chooses to. It is your choice as a parent to do whatever you think to be best for your child.
This is the second time I’ve heard this kind of thing from someone. I had a girl who has no children tell me that I should know better than to get an ultrasound because of all of the research I have done & that I am giving my child cancer. REALLY? I had one ultrasound at 12 weeks because my midwife found one heartbeat and I was measuring ahead so they were worried about only finding one heartbeat when I may have been carrying twins and I had our anatomy scan which I planned on having the entire time to make sure our peanut was healthy and that we didn’t need to see any specialists for our little girl. I don’t think it’s anyones right to judge you as a parent for something like that in general, much less someone who has never been pregnant and therefore never been in the position to have to worry about the well being of thier child.
I’m sorry. I’m in defensive mommy mode. I feel like I’m being critisized on the type of parent that I am when I am doing everything I can to be educated and to be the best parent possible….
Post # 3
Bitches. Ignore them and look forward to your beautiful baby girl!
Post # 4
You don’t even know this woman. Let it go. Who cares what people think/say about your baby. It’s YOUR baby. This will be far from the first things people say about what you do with your kids.
Post # 5
Read the “Sanctimommy” page on Facebook. I think you’ve found one.
Post # 6
@eeniebeans: @HisIrishPrincess: I do need to ignore it. DEEP CLEANSING BREATHS.
Post # 7
@Ariadne: I’m going to look for it RIGHT NOW! hahaha
Post # 8
@nicannette: oh boy. Having a baby or even just being pregnant is an open call for people to tell you shit. They will tell you everything they did (perfectly) and what to do so you can also be perfect. This is just the beginning. I say have a generic ‘oh that’s interesting’ or ‘I’m so glad that worked for you’ retort so you don’t get caught up in a million arguments. Ugh.
Post # 9
That lady is SUCH a psycho!
If she’s SO worried about sound waves, did she sit in a quiet room for her whole pregnancy? Did she have a “silent delivery”?
UGH! I hate people like that!
CONGRATS ON YOUR PERFECT LITTLE GIRL, THOUGH!
Post # 10
@nicannette: I don’t see any evidence in that quote that she’s some sort of medical professonal OR “not an old fogey.” She just sounds like an old, run of the mill meddler…
Post # 11
@mamadingdong: I suppose I should get used to peoples ‘opinions’ and start rehersing my generic responses. It seems my safest bet. 🙂
@BrandNewBride: There are a million BAJILLION factors that can effect a child. I’m sure there is a study out there that says farting too much during pregnancy is damaging to the babe…lol!
Post # 12
I hate to say this…but it only gets worst. Congratulations on your baby girl. I get judgement for having had a emergency cesarean (I should have never got an epidural and I should have stuck it out past that 50+ hours of labor). I even got it for owning a swing (I should be holding the baby in my arms at all times!). I get it for letting my baby comfort nurse. I get it for using a baby bjorn. I get it for not just letting her “cry it out”. It gets tiring but you learn to develope a thick skin.
Post # 13
Ugh. People are dumb and, unfortunately, @Cady: is right. It only gets worse. My son is nearly 5 and people still attempt to offer “advice” on the regular. So annoying.
I wish I were fb friends with your SMIL. I’d comment saying “Maybe I’m the old fogey because I think rude people should keep their unwanted opinions to themselves.”
Post # 14
@nicannette: First off congrats.
Second I think you’re blowing this out of proportion, the woman was expressing a point of view not personally attacking you, she’s saying she doesn’t get it and offering a different point of view and experience.
People judge or criticize other people’s choices all the time, especially on parenting so I think you have to master the art of ignoring it and just taking in what you think may be useful to you.
Post # 15
@nicannette: Ignore them. Millions and billions of babies have been born just FINE regardless of food, scans, gas, etc. You’ll probably be just fine! 🙂
Post # 16
@walnutgirl: The first lady, not so much. The other girl directly telling me that I am giving my child cancer by having an ultrasound is a personal attack if you ask me. And I’m not sure how much experience she’s pulling from having never had children herself. Should I take it so seriously? Probably not. However, it doesn’t make it appropriate for someone to say it either.