(Closed) Everyone is going to wear a hat or fascinators to our wedding? No, i’m serious.

posted 7 years ago in Accessories
Post # 3
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1962 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

If it really upsets you then you could talk to your sister about it. I’m sure she could find a way to call it off without making everybody think you are a kill joy. 

Then again, you could always let it slide. I’m sure this would make for some interesting photos. Do you have a lot of guests? If so I think that’s kind of awesome that she was able to coordinate something like that. Some of these people might already have hats purchased too. Maybe you could have a crazy hat contest? That might be funny.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I kind of like the idea as well but I would definitely be more than irked if my bridal party was planning to make a big change to their appearance like that without running it by me first.

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Well you said you like to be in control. I can see how this would make you feel upset/confused since it is your wedding. That is the one day you should have control over to some extent. I don’t know what your relationship is like with your sister so I can’t say if she’s trying to make a mockery of your wedding. Maybe she just wanted to surprise you with something to make you laugh? 

Oh if you do make it a crazy hat competition you could make a little trophy to look like the crazy octopus looking hat that Princess Beatrice wore.

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

Well, you could…

1. Tell her you think it’s a bit too out there and ask her to nix the hat plan.

2. Ask her to switch the hat plan to the Rehearsal Dinner or the bachelorette.

3. Have your officiant respectfully request that everyone remove their hats for the ceremony, at the very least.

or

4. Grin and bear it, but use the hats to your advantage and get your own back at your sis and your guests. Instead of clinking glasses for you to kiss, people will have to put their hat on (or swap hats with, if applicable) a member of the opposite sex and leave the hat(s) that way for the rest of dinner. Have a contest for most ridiculous hat and give the winner an equally ridiculous booby prize. DIY the ugliest, most outlandish hat in the history of headwear, and make your sister wear it at the reception as a punishment reward for organizing the hat plan. I could go on… ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Ahaha I love what linguo42 posted as option number 4. 

 

@Mollytov: I’m not saying you should go with it for sure. I was just trying to offer a fun alternative to the problem if you choose to just let it slide. I’m fixated on an ugly hat competition for some reason… I’m probably delirious from a lack of sleep so you should probably not heed my advice anyway. Like I said before, I’m sure that if you have a talk with your sister and let her down gently she can find a way to nix the idea without making it look bad on your part.

Post # 11
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

So long as your wedding party isn’t planning on wearing ridiculous hats for the ceremony, I’d let it slide.  It could make for some really fun photos! ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Send your sister to my wedding, I’ve always wanted a hat occasion! I think you could probably ask for them to be taken off for the ceremony. I do like the idea of hat games!

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I expect to have a lot of hats & fascinators at my wedding- Fiance is from Ireland, and people wear them. Honestly, it looks dressy and makes everything feel fancy. And no one is going to have that crazy toilet seat hat, I promise.

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@linguo42

You are a genius!  I love the 4th option and it almost makes me want to have people wear hats to our wedding…

Post # 16
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

I wish people would do this at my wedding!

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