Everyone is making my wedding planning miserable…vent

posted 3 years ago in Emotional
Post # 2
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112 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

Hang in there, bee. 

Planning a wedding is stressful, and when you add on bridal party/family/personal issues….it gets to be a LOT! 

I am dealing with almost ALL of the same issues as you…you’re not alone in this! 

The good news is…your wedding is coming up very soon. I promise it will all work out and your actual wedding day will be beautiful and everything will happen as it was supposed to. 🙂 Then you can stop stressing and enjoy married life!

Post # 3
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113 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

OMG! This sounds exactly like what I am going through. We have lost half our wedding party and everything has been sooo stressful and yes I have had to to pick up the slack and do everything. We are out of town and our whole family and wedding party are in another state. No one wants to get their stuff and the vendors are all over the place The only thing I can say is my wedding planner is great and my Mother in law and Fiance but everyone else is making me realize after the wedding, there will be alot of relationships cut off. If it is not our immediate family (parents, kids, siblings…and very few friends they are not apart of our life anymore. All I can say Bee is hang in there its almost over. I have 19 days and I am counting down to the day after. sad but true…the day of just may surprise us both…. Congrats on your new life…

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

I relate to you on so many points it is scary. My sister-in-law was supposed to be my bridesmaid and flaked, as well as my friend from college. I do everything myself because my bridal party is all out of state, busy with their own lives and I don’t want to drown them with the wedding, and my fiance works crazy hours so I am lucky I see him during the week. Also, literally half of our guests have not sent in their RSVPs which were due Saturday and I am currently trying to hunt them down on FB while no one is answering the messages I am sending.

All I can suggest is breathe and take a few minutes and think of why you are marrying the love of your life, that is helping me so darn much when I get crazy. And wine, lots of wine. Lets face it, wedding planning is hell where you feel like you’re drowning and feel bad to ask for a hand. At least that is my experience.

Just remember after the day is here, and that piece of paper is signed, none of the craziness will matter. 

Post # 5
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216 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2017

Bleann23 :  i can relate. Im alone. I live abroad. Just yesterday found out that one of my bridesmaids, whom i thought is a dear friend, said that my ceremony is not important bcos “it’s only 15mins anyway who cares.” In this area many people are doing their wedding ceremony in a church complete with a mass, which can stretch the ceremony into an hour lomg event. I will only have a minister. No religious anything. But i still want to have it in a pretty place and some of the venue that i want is just difficult to get. This makes me so nervous so i shared my feeling with her. And thats how she answered my feeling. This is after sje made me change my wedding color theme bcos pastels are not her color.

I think the saddest part is finding out their true color and to see how they treat us when we need them the most. I finally see. That hurts. But i swear i wont let that ruin the day when i can finally call my man “husband”. Im trying to focus on that and it actually makes me feel better. 🙂

Post # 6
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Buzzing Beekeeper

Bleann23 : 

When absolutely everybody else is to blame and nobody will  do things your way,  on your schedule  , it is – just – possible you might be coming on too strong and controlling, especially as it’s been a year and a half in planning.   Just sayin’….

Breathe breathe , all will be well , you don’t have  to chase everything  all the time .

Post # 7
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741 posts
Busy bee

Bleann23 :  I also can’t help but think there’s one thing all these scenarios have in common and it’s you.  You need to relax, you’re making mountains out of molehills here and making the whole thing more stressful than it needs to be. 

Also why would you call your sister to ask her to call someone else to ask a question? And then to get so worked up about it when you could’ve just sorted it yourself. 

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2017 - Poppy Ridge Golf Course

It does sound a little like you’re making mountains out of molehills. If its true no one has any specific tasks and all they have to do is show up dressed then let that happen. Either they will or they won’t. Stop chasing after adults. If this is stressing you out that badly then nix the wedding party and they can all come as guests. Problem solved. If the wedding planner sucks get your money back and cancel the service since you seem to be doing everything yourself anyway. 

Post # 12
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113 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

Bleann23 :  Thank you. That is very true, it helps us vent and see that we arent the only ones. You dont have long either! Congrats!

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2017

Bleann23 :  fire away, really. My Fiance has used wayyyyy stronger words about that Bridesmaid or Best Man. Lol.

Anyway, I just re-read your post and I’m surprised that your wedfing planner is acting like that. Isnt s/he supposed to be…. planning the wedding with you?

Dont worry. It will be great and all of this hard work and stress will be paid off. 🙂 just focus on how long you and your Fiance have waited for this day to come!

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