Post # 1
So I’ve gotten into shape and am pretty slim not that I was fat before but I feel like everyone is commenting cause I eat healthy and not junk. I don’t eat treats when we go to my fiance’s bday parties for his family and the last time they were like “are you trying to be 80lbs” I think I look fine and want to stay where I am. Is it okay to just sas no and be who I am? My own family has a also made comments as well.
Post # 2
Honestly, if someone were saying that while trying to convince me to eat fattening foods I’d reply with “No. Are you trying to be 300 pounds?”
Post # 3
Ugh. This comes part and parcel of making healthy eating choices in front of certain people, I’m afraid. I don’t know if it’s because your healthy eating is putting the spotlight on their not-so-healthy habits and they feel guilty or if they are a little jealous of your newfound lower weight–maybe both. Or perhaps they’re just unused to or uncomfortable with change, yours or otherwise.
I’ve learned you need not defend your choices just like they need not justify theirs. I now just happily respond to the naysayers with, “Yup! This is what I’m eating! I feel great where I am and eating this way but thanks for the offer. It looks good and I’m sure it’s delicious.”
After a few times they get the point. It’s perfectly ok to say no politely and be who you are. Try not to take it personally and just cheerfully decline.
Post # 4
Sometimes the people closest to us see things we don’t see or want to make sure we are not over doing it. That could be on reason they are commenting, out of concern (not saying it is right/wrong just that it happens).
Also it is unfortunate but a womans weight (slim, overweight, obese or anywhere in between) seems to be a topic that society feels is their right to talk about and judge. Just look at all the women’s magazines that fat shame celebrities.
Post # 5
I go back and forth trying to be healthy, then sliding back into bad ways. Congrats on sticking to it and being where you want to be!!! I do think people encourage others to eat junk/sweets so they are justified in eating it. I don’t think its completely intentional, just human nature to want people around you doing what you are doing. Stay firm in what you are doing and keep saying that you are really happy where you are at. You could also try to change the subject when it is brought up. If certain people persist, you could try to talk to them one on one, but over time they will probably stop. You could also try to explain that eating even a little bit of cake/sugar could make you feel ill/crave more sweets so you don’t want to do that.
Post # 7
I never understood why it is acceptable to tease someone being too thinbut it is taboo to do the same for someone on the other side of the scale. Both are body shaming and unacceptable
Post # 8
If you can muster it, a taken aback “what a rude thing to say” or “well that’s rude..” will go a long way.
Otherwise a awkward “no…” and a wierd look at them is still a perfectly reasonable reaction.
If you’re feeling sassy, there’s always “Maybe you should focus on what you’re putting in your mouth more than on what I’m putting in mine.”
Post # 9
I tend to eat really healthy and get that all the time. Everyone has a comment about weight, what I don’t eat, my favorite “this won’t kill you”…. I chalk it up to people trying to make themselves feel better about their own insecurities. I try to ignore it. If they think you are actually wanting something you are not eating, it gets worse. I now say sugar gives me a headache, dairy makes me sick, wheat gives me a rash. LOL