Post # 17
Girl, go for it! You guys are mature, stable, in love, and on the same page. I’m 25 and my FH is 28, we get marries next month and we’re going to start TTC on the honeymoom and we can’t wait! Do what you and your hubby want, 🙂 it’s not anyone else’s decision
Post # 18
Its not like I’m going around telling anyone. No one knows of our plans. My mothers and aunts opinions do matter to me because we are very close. They just mention us waiting when they hear of others getting pregnant, I don’t ask them anything. They give no reasons however, they are very old fashioned and conservative. So I guess they just think its acceptable to wait longer after being married.
Post # 19
you should do what you want. don’t let your family have any say. it would be different if you were 20 years old and not established and wanted a baby. you’re 28 and have your finances in order.
Post # 21
I wouldn’t wait! As other posters have said, it may take a few months. I get people who say be married a while but you guys are old enough and settled. Do what’s right for you!
Post # 22
I think that sometimes the previous generation/s forget that couples today often live in a marriage-like relationship for years before they get married. It isn’t like the ‘old days’ (30’s, 40’s, 50’s), when you met, had a short engagement and got married. It was expected back then, to wait a little before having children. (which had some common sense to it, as the couple would still have been getting to know each other).
You are old enough, stable enough, the timing in your career is perfect!. If you leave it too long, you might find harder to conceive.
Post # 23
I’m not sure I would worry about what other people thought because what matters most is what you and your husband want. You and your husband know what is best for the two of you. People will continue to give their opinions or try to control a situation only if you allow it to happen. Put your foot down, ignore it, and baby make!!!!!!
Post # 24
I think it sounds like you and your hubby are actually being sensible, and having a child and being able to be at home for a while before getting into a demanding full time job is a great idea.
i can understand that you care about what your Mom and Aunts think, so maybe just act like it was unintentional when you announce that you’re pregnant, rather than reveal it was planned? but like someone else said, once it’s a reality, they’ll probably be thrilled!
this is a big decision that’s really just between you and your DH. good luck!
Post # 25
Do what is best for you! You both seem to have it all worked out. They really have nothing to do with your decision. Family has a habit of pushing their desires, when they will not be responsible for what happens either way! Are they planning on babysitting or something? If not, then they need to mind their own business.
Post # 26
I think 28 & 30 are adult ages and you need to start living your own life…
Post # 27
I’m 25 and DH is 34 and we both make an okay amount of money, we own our home. All ideal situations right? Well my mother and sister and father have all told us to wait at least 2 years to “get to know each other and be married” and ya know what? We’re not listening. We haven’t decided when to TTC but we aren’t going by anyone’s schedule but our own!!!