Post # 1
A little pre-information: I have OCD. It’s totally manageable, and most people can’t tell I have it. It normally involves checking things a lot, typing oddly and restarting sentences on a bad day. I don’t like to tell my family as they’re not the most sympathetic bunch, but this morning my mother told me that line above.
Apparently everyone in the family knows about my compulsions and finds them hilarious. My Aunt and Uncle (who live nearby) apparently watch me out of their window in the mornings when I’m struggling to walk away from the locked door. They talk about me on the phone and laugh at my stupidity.
I’m hurt. I know a lot of people don’t ‘get’ what OCD is, so I can’t blame them on that part. I probably do look silly when I do my rituals. No, what hurts me is that they do it behind my back, letting me believe that I’m keeping it under control and then making fun of me in private.
I can’t tell if I’m just overreacting, or if I’m actually entitled to feel hurt by this. I’d appreciate bees’ opinions on this.
Post # 3
They’re being awful. You are totally not overreacting.
Post # 4
They watch you in the morning? That’s fucked up. I have manageable OCD as well, and while Fiance finds it funny, it’s never in a “I’m going to watch her do X and laugh!”
It’s disgusting that they make fun of you, privately or otherwise.
Post # 5
@TopazTurtle: it’s a nasty, unnecessary thing to say. Those close to you should be supportive.
Post # 6
Keep in mind that you never actually witnessed them laughing/making jokes. So it might not be true at all and your mother just worries about you and embellished what she knows.
If they are really telling the whole neighborhood that your weird than they are really bitchy an not worth your time. But can you really be sure? I can’t imagine any of my relatives doing any of that. I can however imagine my mother being overprotective.
Post # 7
That’s a horrible thing to do!
It’s human nature to laugh at daft things people do, but to purposefully watch family go through that and laugh at them is absolutely awful.
And then to say you’re coping well!
I did a lot of work on OCD when I was younger and it’s a really bad thing to do through. I’m a little anal retentive, so I can understand what it’s NEED things to be ‘just so’ but I can’t imagine what it must be like to have OCD on that scale.
And to hear that from your MOTHER! Oh hun *hugs*
Post # 8
Well to be fair you said that you don’t tell your family so maybe they do not know the extent of your struggles. maybe if you talked to them about your OCD and how it makes you feel then they might be more understanding.
I have diabetes and if I get low blood sugar I can be very grumpy and snappy. If I didn’t tell people I had it and explain the situation and what happens then they would just think I was a grumpy bitch.
Post # 9
What a bunch of assholes. You’re not overreacting.
What would be funny is if one morning after you’re able to leave you suddenly turned to their house and flipped them off. 🙂
Post # 10
I’m so sorry 🙁 You’re not overreacting. That’s horrible. I have mild OCD about certain things and I’d be really upset by someone saying this. Hugs.
Post # 11
I agree with PP. Explain to them your struggles and if they continue with the jokes (behind your back) then confront them.
Post # 12
That is AWFUL. You are absolutely not overreacting, whether your mom is embellishing the story or not. Why would someone say something like that!? UGH! RUDE.
On another note, I don’t have OCD, and I find it incredibly annoying when people like things a certain way and say “Oh I’m OCD about that.” 1. That’s bad grammar, you can’t “be” a disorder, and 2. Shut up, you’re full of crap. Drives me as insane as the people who get headaches and call them migraines…Oooooh.
And I don’t have EITHER of those things, so I’m completely on the other end, but totally on your side!
Post # 13
((HUGS)) I’m so sorry your mother hurt your feelings with that comment. Hopefully she didn’t say it with intentional cruelty, but rather with lack of accurate information concerning your condition.
I agree with everyone, talk to your family about your OCD and explain your rituals aren’t something you do “on purpose,” but rather you’re compelled to do them because of your OCD. Hopefully they’ll react with compassion and understanding. They’re your family, give them a chance. Also, explain to your mom how much what she said stung you.
They all owe you an apology.
Post # 14
They’re assholes, no doubt about it butthat’s beside the point. OCD is treatable. You don’t need to live with it. Work with a therapist or get a self help book and do the work on your own. It involves not doing the rituals and dealing with the resulting anxiety. The more exposure therapy you do, the more your brain realizes you don’t need the rituals to be OK. It works but it is scary. It is so worth it though. Don’t accept OCD. Recover instead. Recovery is very accessible.
Post # 15
I am so sorry that you had to experience this. You are absolutely NOT over-reacting. Your family members are behaving in a way that is hurtful and cruel, and there is no excuse for it.
I can’t imagine ever finding humour in another person’s suffering. How could that possibly be funny? My mother suffers from OCD, and when I see her struggling with compulsions, my heart breaks for her. The last thing that occurs to me to do is laugh! I don’t understand how your family could be so cold-hearted, but sweetie, it is NOT okay…and I think perhaps you should let them know. Maybe if you talk to them about it, they may understand a little better? It’s hard to say.
Either way, sending lots of love and support your way.
Post # 16
Oh wow, that’s terrible. It’s one thing if it’s your friends and they poke fun while you’re doing something and you ALL laugh about it, but it’s something entirely different to make fun of you in a mean-spirited way behind your back. What jerks.