Post # 1
Several people amongst my family and my friends seem to be under this misapprehension. I don’t mind my 86-year old grandma thinking he’s my fiance, but there have been some rather awkward moments when people I don’t know that well come up to me and say “congratulations, I hear you’re engaged”… “Uh, no, we’re not actually (long silence)” . The strangest thing was a birthday card from my uncle and aunt addressed to Ms Jennifer <span style=”text-decoration: line-through;”>His surname My surname… surely they know we’re not actually married?? Does anyone else get this kind of thing?
Post # 3
This happened to us ALL THE TIME before we got engaged. We had been together for five years, lived together for four and a half and acted like we were married, but we weren’t! I hated having to correct people all the time: “ummm, we’re not engaged … yet.” Awkward!
Post # 4
Strangers used to assume we were married when we weren’t even engaged. I guess we just gave off that ‘married couple’ vibe 🙂
Post # 5
Yeah this happened to me a couple of weeks ago. My mom owns a restaurant and this man comes in all the time with his family, so he kind of knows us. The other day my bf and I were having breakfast and he came up to us and was like….”hey i heard you guys are getting married” i was like….oh, um, no….. It was sooooo awkward because I mean, we will EVENTUALLY get married but not right now. lol just some good ol’ fashioned awkwardness
Post # 6
Before we were engaged we used to get mail with our first names and his last name. Sometimes because his family didn’t know my last name and sometimes because we have a long address and they were trying to save space. It doesn’t bug me as much as it used to since we’re actually engaged now.
Maybe you just give off that kinda vibe? = )
Post # 7
Haha, this happens to us occasionally. People in public will always say “Oh your husband… or Oh your wife”. I LOVE IT. Seeing as we aren’t even engaged yet, that “your husband” thing just kills me! LOVE.
Post # 8
Have some sympathy for these people, it’s awkward for them too. I once was told by my Future Mother-In-Law that our friends coming to visit for the weekend had recently gotten engaged. So of course when I saw them I said “Congratulations” and they couldn’t have made it more awkward for me with their response. Unfortunately, sometimes rumors start flying when a couple is getting serious and the family/friends actually want them to get married. I was told they were engaged as if it were gospel truth along with a proposal story, so it didn’t even cross my mind to be careful about what I said, you know?
Post # 9
Is it possible a family member is calling you his fiancee? My Future Mother-In-Law did that through her daughter’s wedding last year. It made me feel good, though, because I could tell it meant she included me in the family more than “just a girlfriend.”
Post # 10
My parents always talked about “my FI” even before we were engaged. I made them say “soon to be” lol. They thought it was silly since he was bound to propose any day.
Post # 11
It would be quite nice/funny if it wasn’t just another thing that reminds me that we’re not engaged yet. Next time I think I’ll just look at him pointedly and let him explain 🙂
Post # 12
that didn’t happen to me, but when i got engaged my parents started calling my Fiance their son in law.. hello not married yet. ^_^
Post # 13
we have a dog and live in a neighborhood/apartment complex with tons of other dog owners, and everyone is really friendly and chatty, and they all assume my bf and i are already married. so, everyday, people are like, “oh, i saw your husband the other day…” and it’s too awkward to correct them and say, uhh we aren’t even engaged. i mean, mostly they’re quasi-strangers (ie we don’t know their names and refer to them as “stella the little black dog’s mom” or “simba the golden lab’s dad”). it’s more just funny than anything else….and, i have to admit, i may have referred to the bf as my husband myself once or twice to make the conversation easier… 😉
Post # 14
Between house hunting and insurance hunting, I gave up trying to tell people that we weren’t engaged or married.
I would cringe whenever someone would say “your husband”, but only because I’d corrected them at least 5 times by that point.
Ah well, it makes for amusement.
Post # 15
Funny story ok when me and my Fi where getting babtized togther the preacher anounced us engaged to the whole group including his mom in which we where only dating for a year. Totally not true we both look at eachother and said some day but boy was his mom ticked that we didnt tell her she was later releived when she found out it was a goof on the preachers part. When we got engaged it wasnt a suprise becasue everyone else already thought we were so it kinda stole the excitment.
Post # 16
Hahah… yeah, sort of. When J and I started dating, we had been good friends for 8 years already. He flew halfway around the world to pursue me, and when we called our BFFs (who are married to each other) to tell them that we were dating (he didn’t tell anyone the purpose of his trip, because he wasn’t sure if I would have him or not), our conversation went like this:
Me: So, I have something to tell you
bff: OMG! You two are engaged!!!!!! YAY!!!! (squeeling)
me: um —
bff: I’m so excited! This is great!
me: wait, no –
bff: I can’t believe it!
me: NO! We’re not engaged. Just … dating.
It felt like a total let down, not to mention we were on Skype, so he was sitting right next to me, turning red, because suddenly we were supposed to be engaged when we’d only been ‘officially’ dating for like 12 hours.
I love my bff though, and she’s super excited about us, haha, once she got the details straight. Apparently everyone had been just waiting for us to figure out that we’re perfect for each other.