Post # 1
I can’t help but feel like I’m letting everyone down. I’m getting married in two weeks and am completely exhausted, drained, and sick. I just started a new job and it’s killing me. I’m crying constantly, physically sick (probably because I”m so stressed) and just a mess in general. I never thought the weeks before my wedding would be like this. I know Future Mother-In-Law and Fiance mean the best but they keep saying how I just need to let it all go and be happy. I know they both want nothing but the best for me but it makes me feel like I’m letting them down if I”m stressed. I certainly don’t WANT to be stressed but I”m just not happy right now. And I don’t know what to do…
Post # 3
Yeah I was the same way. I was crazy enough to move to a new apartment the same week as my wedding. I became a machine getting through all the masses of work that had to be done, no time for nonsense. I felt bad because my parents were in town and wanted to socialize with me and “take in the moment” and all that. All I had time for was boxes and last minute errands.
Everyone will tell you “you’re supposed to be ____” for your wedding, as if you’re not a real bride if you’re not happy/emotional/whatever. The truth is, how you are right now is exactly how every bride is during the last two weeks, and everyone else has gotten through it too!
Someone gave me the following very good advice, and I’ll pass it on to you: Ten things will go wrong with your wedding. There’s nothing you can do to stop it. You won’t predict what they will be. But if you can accept that they will go wrong, then you’ll be able to relax and enjoy yourself.
Well I’m sure ten things went wrong at my wedding, and amazingly when each thing went wrong, instead of stressing over it, I just said oops that’s number six! Only four more things!
Post # 4
I found checking everything off my to-do list was really helpful. Also, delegate some of those things.
Post # 5
Remember to breathe and allow yourself to be in the moment with your Fiance.
Post # 6
I have an idea for you…stop worrying about being happy right now. Even thinking about how you aren’t happy is frustrating and will make you even more unhappy. You are busy and stressed and exhausted. Try to work on that first! Make sure you get a reasonable amount of sleep each night. Take time for yourself – have a bath or read a book for 30 minutes. One step at a time. You will be happy and your wedding will arrive and it will be wonderful. But you don’t HAVE to be happy all the time. And that is ok! Just get what you need to get done and everything will work itself out. I hope you feel better soon 🙂
Post # 7
Thanks for all the kind words and advice Bees 🙂 I think you’re right, I need to work on feeling better first. Things always seem worse when you’re sick. I’m feeling a little bit better and thank goodness this is a long weekend so I can catch up on my rest. I do need to stop worrying and stressing and just enjoy what I can and forget the rest!