(Closed) Everyone wants me to be happy and excited…and I’m just not!

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Yeah I was the same way.  I was crazy enough to move to a new apartment the same week as my wedding.  I became a machine getting through all the masses of work that had to be done, no time for nonsense.  I felt bad because my parents were in town and wanted to socialize with me and “take in the moment” and all that.  All I had time for was boxes and last minute errands.

Everyone will tell you “you’re supposed to be ____” for your wedding, as if you’re not a real bride if you’re not happy/emotional/whatever.  The truth is, how you are right now is exactly how every bride is during the last two weeks, and everyone else has gotten through it too!

Someone gave me the following very good advice, and I’ll pass it on to you:  Ten things will go wrong with your wedding.  There’s nothing you can do to stop it.  You won’t predict what they will be.  But if you can accept that they will go wrong, then you’ll be able to relax and enjoy yourself.

Well I’m sure ten things went wrong at my wedding, and amazingly when each thing went wrong, instead of stressing over it, I just said oops that’s number six!  Only four more things!

Post # 4
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1079 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I found checking everything off my to-do list was really helpful. Also, delegate some of those things.

Post # 5
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1765 posts
Buzzing bee

@Treasure43:

Remember to breathe and allow yourself to be in the moment with your Fiance.

Post # 6
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1418 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I have an idea for you…stop worrying about being happy right now.  Even thinking about how you aren’t happy is frustrating and will make you even more unhappy.  You are busy and stressed and exhausted.  Try to work on that first!  Make sure you get a reasonable amount of sleep each night.  Take time for yourself – have a bath or read a book for 30 minutes.  One step at a time.  You will be happy and your wedding will arrive and it will be wonderful.  But you don’t HAVE to be happy all the time.  And that is ok!  Just get what you need to get done and everything will work itself out.  I hope you feel better soon 🙂

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