(Closed) Everyone is invited except your two daughters?

posted 9 years ago in Family
Post # 3
18637 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Maybe you could make it a rule across the board that no one under 14 can come?  Including friends kids?  Unfortunately, I think they might be a little upset no matter what.

Post # 4
2394 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

Are they local?  Maybe call them up and offer to pay for a sitter?  In a very assertive way?  Something like, “I just wanted to ask for the name of your girls’ favorite sitter so I can be sure she’s available the night of the wedding.”  If they’re from Out of Town you can always just say straight out that childcare will be available during the reception and they should take the hint.

It’s tricky because you can’t exclude them straight out, but perhaps being pre-emptive will solve the problem.

Post # 5
4464 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Agree with MissASB.  Say no one under 14 (or even 13, and you can blame it on the venue!)

Post # 6
11325 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

I’d make a no one under 14 rule. Will this exclude some (or hoepfully a lot) of kids on FI’s side? You could say you made the rule for his family but you cant make exceptions for yours 🙂

Post # 7
588 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2010 - Philippe Park

Ditto, hotchildinthecity, Make it 13+ and, if you must, blame it on the venue.

Post # 8
1813 posts
Buzzing bee

I’d go the sitter route as well, and make them activity bags that are age approriate.

Post # 9
1523 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Make the wedding no kids age 14 and under.

Our wedding will be no kids 12 and under. No one has challenged me yet! I did explain to my Aunt that the wedding was an evening wedding and we thought it was not small kid friendly- go figure she agreed with me!

Post # 10
14183 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Jumping on board for 13+

Post # 11
11826 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2009 - Barr Mansion

How about if you have a babysitter on site?  That way they can bring the kids, but they won’t interrupt the wedding fun?  You could probably find someone on Craigslist or a friend of a friend who’d do it for cheap.

Post # 12
5993 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

another 13+ vote here – i think its more than fair to have an age limit, especially as one is only 4yrs old

Post # 13
7777 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

Voting 13+.

Post # 14
296 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

There is a huge difference between a 4/7 year old child, and a 14 year old teenager! 14 year olds baby sit 7 year olds!

 I would say the venue has a rule about 13+, you can say for insurance reasons and to avoid property damage.

Post # 15
545 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

I also agree with creating a rule of 13/14+. It totally makes sense ad there is a huge difference between a 7 year child and a 13 year old child.



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