Post # 1
Is this normal? Whether it’s something he says or does or the way he says something or when I just look at him, I feel so annoyed! I think it might be because we were cooped up together on Sunday and fought due to too much together time, and it’s just carried over into the week. He’s under a lot of stress with trying to get a new job, and we have to move by June 1st, and the wedding is in 6 months, etc. Anyway, we’re going to see the venue and do wedding stuff this weekend with my parents in another state. Hopefully being in my hometown will be refreshing, but I’m nervous about getting married when I feel this way 6 months out. I don’t know what to do. Is this normal? Do I just need to get out of the house (aka tiny apartment) more?
Post # 3
lol. I feel this way sometimes too. He purposely likes to annoy me though. He runs around the apartment singing and dancing at 6 am. Hello It is too early for that!
I guess you have to ask yourself if it is just stress, or if you are lashing out because you do not want to marry him.
Post # 4
I think we all go through these phases, especially when we spend an extended period of time with just one person, which often happens to be our SO/spouse. Try not to worry about it too much, and see if you can focus on the reasons you love him. I tend to drop any negativity really quickly when I remember how lucky I am to have a husband that ____ (fill in the blank here with a good quality your husband has).
Post # 5
@Gemstone: Yeah I feel guilty for feeling this way because I know he’s so great! I know I love him but I forget sometimes.
Post # 6
I think whenever I spend too much time with someone from family to friends and even Fi after a while we all start getting on each other nerves. I think its normal unless there is no deep underlying issue and you are just annoyed in the moment.
Post # 7
You just need more time away fro him to miss him. Spending too much time together eventually turns the corner into being a bad thing
Post # 8
I’m just nervous that it’s been like 5 days. Plus he said something REALLY nasty when we fought on Sunday. I don’t think he meant it, I think he just said it to piss me off, but it worked! I know we also need to fight more fairly.
Post # 9
I went thru it about 6 or 7 months out too… I was irritated by everything and I was seriously worried about how I could live with all his annoying habits forever… After a few weeks I got over it all and I am happy and can’t wait. I put it down to wedding stress and a little of cold feet/am I doing the right thing 🙂 obviously I decided I WAS doing the right thing and yes I loved him annoying habits and all (also helps to remember I am not perfect and prob irritate himsometimes too :))
As PP says as long as it is superficial (thou i get that is still super annoying hehe) and not coming from a deep underlying issue all will be fine 😀
Post # 10
I find that I never appreciate my Fiance more than when he is away from me for a few days 🙂
I am sort of looking forward to a sort work trip he has next week as I wouldn’t have to listen to him playing guitar for a whole three nights in a row! I know, I’m horrible, but hearing him play the same songs over and over again for an hour or two almost every night is slowly driving me mad.
Post # 11
I found that when we were engaged I would get more easily annoyed with dh about certain things. it’s like, little things that would irritate me before but that I wouldn’t say anything about suddenly drove me crazy becuase I would think to myself “can I really stand him doing xyz for the rest of our lives??” So we def bickered more then, but it also made us communicate better about things that were bothering us
Post # 12
I’m pretty sure this is normal–but if you focus on all the great things you like about him/the reasons you fell in love with him to begin with and re-evaluate WHY the little things are annoying you, maybe you can get to the root of the issue. Also, you should tell him that whatever nasty thing he said really hurt your feelings. Honesty is the best policy! You two should have a little chat and maybe take a day trip together somewhere and rekindle those lovin’ feelings. 😉 Good luck! I’ve been there before, too, girl!
Post # 13
@redheadem: Haha. I know exactly what you mean. For me, once that short-lived phase passes, I feel really guilty for being short with him or however I act when I’m annoyed, so I then try extra hard to be nice and appreciative, and that’s always good for a relationship. So I guess what I’m saying it that you can still turn the situation around. 🙂