(Closed) EVERYTHING brings on baby comments- what have you experienced?

posted 7 years ago in Married Life
Post # 3
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I know people are crazy!  On our wedding day, people were asking when we were going to have kids!

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

same here – we were at hubbys aunts funeral and at the wake the greek priest put someones baby in my arms and started lecturing me about how its my duty as a women to god to have children

it happened at every family (his side greek) function for at least a year

 

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Yeah, we get the comments constantly, my parents want to be grandparents, and my sisters want to be Aunts so so bad … Me and Darling Husband are not trying not to conceive, but since I was on depo until 5 months ago, not thinking things will happen too soon, and are totally okay with it.

It is annoying to be asked about it all the time though … 

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Darling Husband and I were at a gathering last night, and even though I didn’t really feel liking having any alcohol, I made sure to have a beer so that I wouldn’t get people asking if I wasn’t drinking because there was a bun in the oven.

Honestly people, sometimes I just don’t want to have anything to drink.

Post # 7
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

I’m not even married yet and my Future Father-In-Law told Fiance that he was expecting us to give him some grandkids. Not that he doesn’t have any, it’s just FI’s older sister lives quite a few hours away and FI’s brother adopted his wife’s two kids, and they’re horrible.

I also got the speech that it will be my duty as a married woman to give my husband children… Gag me.

FI’s aunt told me that I look like I’ll be a good mother, and that my hips are perfect for an easy childbirth… Huh?! I just met the woman and she’s talking about my hips?

So yeah, not even married and we’re getting the baby stuff. Of course, Future Mother-In-Law is 1 of 13 children. Future Father-In-Law is 1 of like, 7. Most everyone has at least 2 children, some are up to 5… I guess it’s expected.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

I get when are you having a baby questins all the time.

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I got 2 hours of sleep one night last week and came into work the next day obviously dragging and a coworker came up to me and said…”So are we going to hear the pitter patter of little feet soon?”

Ummm no. I’m just tired. Also waaaay rude on your part to even make that assumption. I don’t think I have ever asked anyone if they were pregnant even if they phsyically looked like they had a bump. I would be soooooo embarrassed if I was wrong.

 

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Bwahaha my ffil does this all the time, and I mean EVERY time we visit him. Granted our situation is slightly different (we already have a kid, and aren’t really planning for any more atm). He is generally an easy going guy with whom we will drink on occasion (like wine/beer with supper etc), and every time I have a drink he will say “..So… I guess you’re still not pregnant.” very matter of fact-ly. The other good one is :  “..you know, four is a good age.”    “A good age for what?” “To be a sibling!”  … right.

My Future Mother-In-Law just had a visit with us and she was pretty persistent about this too, constantly saying things like “oh I would love to have several [grandchildren]” or “you know your BIL isn’t seeing anyone and hasn’t finished university so I am leaving it up to you & J to fill the gran-baby quota.”

But my mom can be just as bad, dropping “hints” about how sad it is to be an only child etc — but I am blunt as a brick wall with her, plus both my siblings are expecting, so she has had something to distract her lately.

I think the worst I have heard was “..so, you have provided the heir, when are you going to pop out the spare?”  D:

People are crazy.

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

This weekend I went home (3 hour drive away) to do some Christmas shopping, yesterday just me and my mom and sister were out shopping and I found out my sister is already crocheting hats, boots, blankets, etc for when me and Darling Husband have a baby, and that my dad has already bought a camouflage onesie (he likes to hunt) and has it stored away waiting for a grandbaby to put it on … I love that they are so excited, but the pressure might just kill me Frown

Post # 12
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

Every time I’m not feeling 100%, my mom asks if I’m pregnant.  Apparently newly married women aren’t allowed to just feel under the weather!

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

@Mrs.KMM: ha, I got food poisioning last night so I sent work an email to let them know I would be in later. I woke up feeling fine, but I was tired from being up most of the night.

Some people apparently think food poisoning is code word for morning sickness.

Sheesh, I hadn’t gotten any baby comments thus far … but there have been 4 or 5 this weekend.

I also put on 3 pounds from eating all of my baking I’ve been doing, thankfully it isn’t visible (I’m a little on the heavy side already), because goodness knows that would get people talking too I bet.

Post # 14
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

@guitargirl: It could be because of where you live. Where I live, it’s the norm for people to wait until their 30’s to have kids. It’s the “oldest” average age to marry, as well. So nobody expects us to have kids for at least 5 more years – hence no pressure. In the mid-West and South, the averages for marriage age and age at first child are the lowest in the country, hence people’s expectations are that you’d be having kids sooner. People are just feeding off of societal norms – but definitely buck them if you want! 🙂

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

i’ve only gotten it twice–once while we were at my husband’s high school reunion over thanksgiving and i stopped drinking after 2 drinks. his friend’s gf was like, “are you not drinking for a specific reason?” all knowingly, and it’s like, umm, no, i just had a drink, chill out! the other time was just last night, i was telling my best friend that i hadn’t felt well on saturday and right away she was like, “are you pregnant?” um, no!

haha, but on the other hand, i DO notice i’ve been talking about my niece a lot lately…

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

i know, it’s crazy.  when my sister got married people would not leave them alone about when they were going to have babies, and my sister was only 20 when she got married!  it’s crazy!  people have asked me too since i’ve been married.  one time i mentioned i was having weird dreams and someone told me to “go take a pregnancy test”  wtf??  a lot of people ask us about babies, but i just say “in a few years” if i’m feeling nice, or tell them i want to finish school first, but you don’t have to tell anyone anything, you don’t owe anyone an explination.  i think people just ask out of curiousity, but it does get annoying.

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