Everything is falling apart, please help!

posted 2 years ago in Long Distance Relationships
Post # 47
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2019 - City, State

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lover27 :  I didn’t say you’re defending her.  I meant you’re defending yourself quite a bit.

Post # 49
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: City, State

Stop beating a dead horse.

Post # 52
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2021

“Obviously women tend to hold single moments like engagements a lot more dearly than men do”

…THAT is what you got out of this?? Are you serious?

Perhaps part of the issue here is that you think all women are the same and therefore it doesn’t matter which individual one you end up with. No wonder you’ve ended up with such a flop. 

Newsflash: every woman is different. There are some who think the proposal is a super big deal and there are many others who don’t really care as long as the person proposing to them is sincere and genuine. Lots of women fantasize about “dream” proposals, but very few would be angry and hold it against their partner afterwards if the proposal didn’t go the way they envisioned it. But if you assume that all women are the same, and because one woman reacted in a certain way that all women must feel the same way, you are setting yourself up for a lifetime of shitty relationships with shitty women. Have fun with that!

Post # 53
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

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lover27 :  Don’t make sexist jokes on a platform whose users are mainly women and expect us not to call you out on it. It’s not funny. Actually, don’t make sexist jokes period. Jokes that demean or objectify others aren’t funny. So don’t talk about trading in your wife as though she is interchangeable. Don’t joke about using her as a ticket to the US. That’s not cool. It doesn’t matter if your amazing father does it. It’s sexist, crude and not funny. It doesn’t matter if “everyone does it” or if “guys joke about women and women joke about guys.” It’s wrong to make sexist jokes.

And frankly, those comments make me wonder why her friends are all taking her side. Maybe you aren’t as kind as you say and she’s not as awful as you make her out to be. I think you came to this site hoping if you’d push a sad story that we’d all agree with you. I’ve never seen anyone on here seem so eager to go from hopeless in love to I need to get a divorce.

There’s something fishy about this post. You seem to really like the attention.

Post # 54
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2019 - Premier Ballroom

I have not read through all these comments, only the first few. But honestly, it’s the money hun. What else? The truth stares you right in the face and I hope you see it now with some of these harsh words lol. As for her seeing other guys, I know you mentioned her having pics of y’all all over, but honestly that does not really matter when it comes to cheating. People don’t really care about being homewreckers now a days, especially if the husband is the wife’s ATM. You should’ve dropped the relationship after the engagement BS. I sincerely hope you find someone who truly cherishes you. 

Post # 58
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2021

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lover27 :  I thought this was your first serious relationship? How have you been “let down a few times” by women?

Regardless, if you are consistently attracting users or otherwise negative people, the common denominator is YOU, not en entire gender. Figure out what it is about YOU that both attracts and is attracted to people who are not good for you. 

Post # 60
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2019 - City, State

So rather than becoming a better man, you compensated by buying her things and spoiling her perhaps?  Sounds like you took the easy way out and tried to make a foundation out of straw.  Relationships are hard and there’s disappointment involved, for sure.  But there aren’t any shortcuts that lead to long-lasting fulfillment.

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