(Closed) Everything is falling to pieces…

posted 5 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
Member
85 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

You have a lot to take in at the same time, both yourself and as a couple. It’s completely normal to be stressed.  Health is a tough one- no one has full control on that. im very sorry for ure Fiance mother.

stress always creates tension in couple…For better or for worse…that’s part of what marriage is. imo, i suggest you take some cool down time with Fiance. Refocus on what’s important. You two love each other- that’s what counts. ( you can always find a solution for money. i.e. solutions to pay rent- if it’s a prob…which it isn’t yet!)

Forget what ure dad says…. Find family members that support you and tell them u are stressed. Maybe they don’t realize it cuz u look strong πŸ™‚

Love will make ure day magnificent and happy. ( and u and ure Fiance will find a way to have his mother attend…even if not physically). Just remember why ure getting married in the first place πŸ™‚

Post # 4
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12 posts
Newbee

I am so so sorry all of this has happened to you! It’s definitely a lot to take in, especially so close to the wedding. I think what you need to concentrate on right now is keeping yourself calm and being the best support you can for your Fiance. Looking at what you have going on, there is not a whole lot you can do. For me it sometimes helps to acknowledge the things out of my control and try to move on, concentrating on the things I CAN do something about.

 

I know this is huge stuff, but keep in mind that it will get better as it always does, even if it does take time. In just days you will be married and that is what you should be looking forward to, even if the wedding itself is super stressful. 

 

*Hugs*

Post # 5
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60 posts
Worker bee

I’m sorry, that’s such a crappy situation!  At this point, you should just look forward to ending your wedding day married to the person you’ve chosen.  All the other frilly details can take a back seat and if you get to it, you get to it.  You clearly have other, more important things to deal with and I’m sure your friends and family would understand.

Post # 7
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32 posts
Newbee

Oh mrsridley, I do completely understand what you are going through! We arranged a destination wedding in tropical North Queensland back in November, then in the first week of January my Mum (who I am incredibly close to) was diagnosed with secondary breast cancer in her bones and lining of her lung, come February my Fiance’s Dad passed away suddenly and my sisters epilepsy started playing up (she lives with me, so it is me who has had to deal with it) and come March we get given notice to move house. Better yet I find out today that Mum’s health isn’t looking as positive as we thought and will likely be unable to make our destination wedding, so we are having to cancel and re-plan it all closer to home. On top of that, I’m trying to study full time and as you said happened to you, our finances are quickly dwindling…it’s very difficult to get excited about getting married when your whole world caves in. I always thought this would be the happiest time of my life too, but right now it feels plain miserable. How are you coping?

Post # 8
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1019 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I hope that the days leading up to the wedding calmed down and hope you’ll give us an update on your special day.  I really hope things worked out !

Post # 10
Member
32 posts
Newbee

Naw!! Congratulations! That is great to hear. It gives me some hope that come my own wedding day (which is actually July, now, we changed it for the benefit of my Mum) everything will be ok.

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