- 6 years ago
- Wedding: March 2013
Not really looking for advice per se, just some words of comfort I suppose.
Long story short, our wedding is in eleven days and it feels like the world has brought me to my knees.
Fiance Mum had a heart attack and a stroke nearly a week ago. As you can imagine, when family members are stressed they take it out on each other and that is definitely the case here. At this point, I don’t know how people are going to be able to stand being in the same room as each other at the wedding, let alone actually be in the mood for celebrating. Which brings up another point. Fiance has been so excited about this wedding for so long, and now all he’s going to be thinking about (and rightly so) is that his mother was unable to see him get married.
Money is the other thing we’re stressing about – I’m not going back to work for almost a month, so between now and a week or so after the wedding, we’re on a very tight budget and relying on one income. I know money is the last thing we should be worrying about at the moment, but we’re normally very responsible with our finances and the idea that we might not be able to pay our rent is really stressing me out.
My birthday was two days ago and for the most part it was… absolutely awful. Fiance and I were stressed beyond belief, and spent most of the day fighting. I called my family, and practically had to twist their arms into coming over and having a BBQ with us, where they spent the whole time arguing with me over me not being religious and not wanting my sister to say grace at the wedding. My Dad basically called me an ignorant moron because I don’t believe the same things they do.
Everybody has been very good about SAYING to me that they’re here if I need anything and I don’t have to do everything on my own, so for once I decided to call in some favours and ask people for some help with decorating my backyard (our venue). And what do you know? Nobody wants to. Not even that they can’t. They don’t WANT to… “Oh, I was really thinking I’d just have a quiet day today…” or “… I don’t know, maybe some other time…”. I wouldn’t care so much if it hadn’t been for the fact that everyone offered to help with anything I needed, then bailed when they realised I would take them up on it.
To top it all off, I’m three weeks late for my period. Yes, I know chances are that it could be because of stress, but I’ve always been VERY regular and this is just one more thing I don’t want to have to think/worry about…
Thanks for listening Bees, and I appreciate any words of comfort you have.
P.S. I know it would appear to make the most sense right now, but please don’t tell me to postpone the wedding. It’s eleven days away, the only thing we have left to pay for is catering, everything else is non-refundable, and we have family members who have booked non-refundable flights and accomodation. It’s just not possible.
ETA: And I just got a call from Fiance saying that his sister had to stay in hospital overnight with internal bleeding after being hit in the stomach at a concert yesterday.