Post # 1
I feel like I am having the worst first year of marriage ever, and its not to do with my husband, we love each other and get along very well, but one thing after another is beating us down. First, right before our wedding, he got fired, and we werent able to take a honeymoon. I can only find part-time work (we both have college degrees but it seems useless) He lost his apartment, and we spent our first month married living with my parents, finally, he found another job and we got our own apartment and began decorating, only to be evicted earlier this month because our landlord sold the apartment and the new owner kicked us out. We had to move in to my mother in laws house which is currently occupied by her abusive, alcoholic ex boyfriend who refuses to leave. Then today my husband just called to say his work closed its doors and laid everyone off. Now we have no place to live and no money for christmas, or anything else. I just feel like I cant take anything else. This isnt how its supposed to be, what a terrible first year of marriage.
Post # 3
@Annabelle86: I’m sorry to hear this. 🙁 hugs to you & I really hope things get better for you guys. I hope you both find the strength to pull through these difficult times. keep us updated.
Post # 4
@Annabelle86: I really believe you will pull through this. Hugs from us. Times really are tough. And I hope both of you get great jobs soon.
Post # 5
Ugg, i’m so sorry that you are going through this and your frist year of marriage has been a constant up hill battle!
It seems like we all run into these skids where it just never seems like their is light at the end of the tunnel- you truly find out who your friends are, and what your made of. I think the fact that your relationship with your husband is going strong, is such a beautiufl testament in regards to all the ugly going on right now.
Try to imagine yourself looking back at your life 6 months from now, one year, 5 years etc and you must trust that this will be a blip in time in reference to what lies ahead for you two!
We too have been shafted by our degrees in this economy and just tried to find totally random and non traditional ways to make money. Are their any types of governemnt assistance typeprograms you can get on? Is you husband eligible for unemployment? Friends or family that you can go to that offer a safer environment than the low life that lives with your MIL>?
Post # 6
Look on the bright side when you fall as far is there is to fall it can only get better. If you guys have survived this much and are still committed and love each other you will weather any storm. ((Hugs)) I will be praying for great jobs and a neat place to live for you. I am so sorry things have been so rough for you.
Post # 7
@Annabelle86: I am so sorry to hear that you two are having such a rough year. I can totally sympathize with you. FI and I have had a horrible year ever since we got engaged. He’s been laid off more times than I can count. We were kicked out of the place we were staying – forcing me to spend every dime I had for the wedding. He’s being sued for something that isn’t his fault. Just a ton of things. It’s so hard to stay positive in times like these, but you have your Darling Husband and you two will pull through together. It will bring you two closer and stronger than ever. I know I can’t say I’ve had many positive thoughts or much strength, but having Fiance by my side has helped me tremendously. Never lose sight of what you DO have.
Post # 8
That is absolutely awful. Its very unfortunate that more Bees than you’d think know a little bit of where you are coming from. Hugs to everyone that’s dealt with this.
Post # 9
I’m so sorry to hear that. If it makes you feel any better I’m going thru pretty much the same situation only were not even married yet,both Fiance and I live with my grandma with my four year old son,he’s working full time thank god but that wasn’t always the case .He got fired and stayed unemployed for 3 months and didn’t qualify for unemployment..with much prayer he found himself this good job.I’m currently unemployed and looking for a job everywhere with no luck.so now with our wedding gettinng closer money has been tight especially with the holidays coming.Don’t worry to much at the end of the day you have each other and that’s what counts .I always tell my Fiance one day at a time things will get better.God won’t give you more than you can handle just have faith ..n I promise things will start looking up for both of us:)
Post # 10
I hope things straighten out for you, OP (and others who are dealing with rough patches). I know it can be so frustrating, but eventually things will take an upswing, its the waiting for eventually that sucks. *hugs*
Post # 11
I hope it makes you feel at least a bit better to know that a lot of people look back and describe their first year of marriage as a horrible year. I don’t know why, but it tends to happen that way. Our first year was such a mess and it was stuff out of our control too, but we survived the craziness and have been married for 7 years now. We are still crazy in love and life did get way better. It will happen for you too. Someday, even though you can’t imagine it now, you will look back on this first year and laugh and talk about how far you have come. God bless.
Post # 12
oh I’ve heard that the first year of marriage is the hardest!! if that makes you feel better 🙂
Post # 13
@Annabelle86:HI =), I just wanted to first give you a big hug ((hugs)), and to tell you that you are NOT alone. Yes, it is a horrible thing you are going through, and yes, it seems as if thes waves just keep throwing you against the rocks…trust me, I know the feeling so well. But, let me tell you something…these horrible, awful trials only make you and your DH’s love that much deeper, and that much stronger. You both are having to lean on one another more than ever before, and that is going to cause some deep, amazing changes to your relationship. You will be okay, I promise; I know, easier said than done, but please, hang in there. Fi and I have been through the exact same thing…just two months ago, he was laid off from a good, steady job. I am a full time student, with a part time job…we both live at home, and are scared to death of how we will be able to pay bills…but ya know what, we have something so deep, real, and true, that we are making it. We are struggling, but we are not defeated…you are never alone in this fight. We feel as if we have gone through hell more times than we’d like, but we have something our other engaged friends do not seem to have…a deep, strong foundation built of respect and unshakeable love…you will get through this…you both will look back and laugh at this little blip in the whole scheme of life. Please, go cuddle up with your Darling Husband, tell him how much he means to you, and then keep moving forward…